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If you’re going out to celebrate New Year’s be sure to take your best friends and stay aware of your circumstances, predators lurk. They watch for lonely drunk girls they can isolate. Know the source of your drink and examine its location at all times. Be discerning. Predators hunt for prey.

According to one author…a recent study showed that most men who hit on women in bars aren’t intoxicated. And they’re more likely to target women the more drunk the women are. It’s not about sex, or sloppy mistakes. It’s about men who see drunk women as easy prey. http://feminismformyfather.com/2014/06/23/on-predators-at-the-bar/

If you don’t have friends or relatives to go out and celebrate with, make your own party at home and be grateful for the wisdom in staying safe at home with the remote and a bag of chips.

Have A Happy New Year!

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{December 23, 2014}   Portrait of Systemic Misogyny

Rant from UCSB Shooter, Elliott Rodger :

“On the day of retribution, I am going to enter the hottest sorority house at UCSB and I will slaughter every single spoiled, stuck-up, blond slut I see inside there. All those girls I’ve desired so much. They have all rejected me and looked down on me as an inferior man if I ever made a sexual advance toward them, while they throw themselves at these obnoxious brutes,” the video says. “I take great pleasure in slaughtering all of you. You will finally see that I am, in truth, the superior one, the true alpha male.”  https://www.insidehighered.com/news/2014/05/27/uc-santa-barbara-students-killed-shooting-rampage

“It’s Not All Men” is the media lament…men like Rodgers are the exception…BUT according to Michael Laser, in his article about Jiam Ghomeshi (Canadian writer/musician & CBC radio host –Serial Women Abuser… http://globalnews.ca/news/1647091/timeline-sex-assault-allegations-arise-after-cbc-fires-jian-ghomeshi/) , he says, “…that is bullshit…It is all men. We, collectively…are responsible for creating…conditions that not only facilitate Ghomeshi, but that ensure he will exist.

This is a very uncomfortable and inconvenient truth. It is all men and the society that they produced that allowed a misogynist, alleged serial abuser to rise to and feel comfortable within the halls of media and fame, despite the now known and clear indications that he was a predator all along and that many, many people could have done something about it but did not.

The people who knew did not care. He was famous. He was a celebrity in our eyes. He had very real institutional power. And so, as is increasingly clear, even though everyone on the inside seemingly either “knew” or had an inkling that he was a predator, no one did anything.

No one did anything…Despite all the protestations to the contrary, this is as old as male patriarchal power and is entirely predictable in a male supremacist “culture” of institutionalized pornography and prostitution and of male violence and sexual power as an accepted norm…The very nature of systemic oppression means…We have all, especially as men, participated in the “locker room” or trash-talking objectification of women and in the creation of a culture and context in which a Ghomeshi would feel right at home…

Given the fact that misogynist predators like Bill Cosby, R Kelly, Woody Allen and many others can continue to be famous, respected and embraced as “artists” despite the established reality of what they have done to women and girls, why would anyone be either surprised by Ghomeshi and his enablers or the fact that he got away with it for so long?”    http://feministcurrent.com/9789/it-is-all-men-our-culture-of-predatory-misogyny/

HOW SOCIETY CONTROL WOMEN via SHIT POLITiANS AND WHAT THEY HAVE TO SAY ABOUT WOMEN”S REPRODUCTIVE RIGHTS even in situations of rape and incest: http://www.politicususa.com/proof-war-women-2

It is a struggle to understand why a woman’s reproductive rights, who describe abortion as a lifestyle convenience for women is the focus of so many men dominating the U.S. Congress. Do you, as a women, get the felling you have little control over your own female body and reproductive rights? It’s as though women’s bodies are a means to an end, reproduction.

Like Tina Fey said, “If I have to listen to one more grey-faced man with a $2 haircut explain to me what rape is, I’m going to lose my mind.”

The Media’s Ideal Woman & Objectification of Women…Despite the physical, cognitive, emotional, and spiritual obstacles in the quest to achieve idealized beauty, women continue to chase it.

..To combat sexism and objectification, society must reshape its patriarchal framework and move towards more egalitarian standards.

Therefore, working towards a society where women can walk safely down the street without fear of assault, or can look in the mirror without negative mental and physical consequences begins internally and hopefully effects the external environment.  http://newyorksociologist.org/11/Berberick2011.pdf

Change your thoughts (ignore the media) about who you are as woman and watch the external world transform. What is your idea for eliminating violence against women, eliminating objectification of women, and ending politics that diminish a woman’s reproductive rights.



WHAT IS RAPE CULTURE?
In a rape culture, people are surrounded with images, language, laws, and other everyday phenomena that validate and perpetuate, rape. Rape culture includes jokes, TV, music, advertising, legal jargon, laws, words and imagery, that make violence against women and sexual coercion seem so normal that people believe that rape is inevitable. Rather than viewing the culture of rape as a problem to change, people in a rape culture think about the persistence of rape as “just the way things are.”

Rather than addressing the problem of sexual assault against women on college campuses the trend has been to blame and shame the victim. The NY Times reported on a study conducted at Bob Jones University in S.C., a Christian/Evangelican University revealed that students who reported sexual assault were asked not to report the incidents to police for fear of what it might do to the families, university, communities, etc. involved. Some students were even asked how their bodies responded to sexual abuse…http://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/12/us/bob-jones-university-sex-assault-victim-study.html?module=ArrowsNav&contentCollection=U.S.&action=keypress&region=FixedLeft&pgtype=article  “…in many cases, victims said they were assaulted as children by people within their churches, and were told by university officials that speaking out would hurt the Christian cause.”

Rolling Stone recently reported  a chilling account of a rape at UV campus and its lack of action to which UV responded with a zero-tolerance policy on sexual assault. Then Rolling Stone under criticism by the Washington Post retract its story indicating “…In the face of new information, there now appear to be discrepancies in Jackie’s account, and we have come to the conclusion that our trust in her was misplaced…” Which again, indicates a lack of credibility and places blame on the victim. Rolling Stone then corrected itself by admitting the mistake was the Rolling Stones…http://www.cnn.com/2014/12/13/us/uva-rape-turmoil/index.html?hpt=hp_t4

You get the gist of things here? The consciousness of a Rape Culture shoves the blame and shame onto the victim.

One college University of Iowa (UI) is proactively taking steps to raise awareness or social consciousness to change the culture of rape.  http://thegazette.com/subject/news/changing-the-rape-culture-20141031

Time magazine calls it, interestingly, time to end the “hysteria” over culture of rape. You’d be hysterical too if you were raped! I know I was. But Time goes on to say, “Though rape is certainly a serious problem, there’s no evidence that it’s considered a cultural norm.”  When I read anything in the media, the first thing I’m always aware of is if it’s in the media, it’s what they want Americans to believe. It has nothing to do with FACT. In fact, the major media sources are all told what is and isn’t news. http://upsettingrapeculture.com/rapeculture.php

The Time article goes on to promote that most guys don’t rape. “The vast majority of men absorb these messages and view rape as the horrific crime…”   http://time.com/30545/its-time-to-end-rape-culture-hysteria/

While true, most men don’t rape, in fact 23 percent of men rape women,  Yes, it’s about individuals who choose to disregard gender equality and rape but it’s MORE about a culture that is lethargic, or gives lip service to taking action to stop the violence against women. IT’s about a society or culture (and its organizations and institutions) that trivializes and normalize violence against women. Its about a culture or society that puts blame on victims and shames them into silence. The entire point behind a culture of rape is not in the number of men who rape BUT A CULTURE that accepts rape and violence against women as normal and responds to the tragedy of a rape culture by trivializing the outcry of 1 out of 5 women (and 1 out of 4 women on college campuses) who have reported rape and will not be silence.

“Invoking “rape culture” is simply a way of looking, academically or anecdotally, at how the ephemera around sex and sexual violence may systematically create subtle biases in behavior and perception. That’s all “rape culture” really means: that certain beliefs and norms in our society may make it easier for sexual violence to take place. …I would also add the unwitting people who perpetuate certain ideas about sex and sexual violence—”have unconsciously created an unplanned culture [of rape] that afflicts all women and men.” http://reason.com/blog/2014/11/21/a-different-way-to-look-at-rape-culture

…cavalier attitudes toward rape could contribute to a culture where the seriousness of the violation

is devalued. And while this devaluation won’t drive more people to start committing assault, it could

allow those who do to thrive… http://reason.com/blog/2014/11/21/a-different-way-to-look-at-rape-culture

It isn’t that “rape culture” directly causes rape, but that it makes people less likely to speak up if they have been assaulted, or less likely to speak out against someone they know has committed sexual assault. That it drives online threats and harassment. That it influences the way our police and the criminal justice system treat sexual assault allegations.

Raise Awareness Refuse to Be Silenced by a Culture of Rape.



When I talk about a culture of rape, I’m talking about the way a society collectively thinks, ignores, trivializes, normalizes or makes into jokes sexual assault, rape and violence against women. In America rape, assault and violence against women is reported in the news every day; pop music blast lyrics that blur the lines of consent; sexy apparel is designed for a younger and younger market; athletics, musicians, politicians, and actors who rape are supported and the victims blamed for ruining careers and life stories; we put the responsibility on women to stay safe; victims on college campuses are still not taken seriously when reporting rape; woman’s body parts are objectified and marketed to promote products as sex sells. Read this articles for examples of rape culture: http://everydayfeminism.com/2014/03/examples-of-rape-culture/

The language of a culture of rape is all around us. We’ve got a problem. And, as one author puts it, “we’re not teaching our sons not to rape.”  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/rebecca-gallagher/we-have-a-problem-here_b_5882974.html   That’s where is starts, training a new generation of boys who grow into men who love, honor and respect women. I taught my son and, feel confident, he will pass this legacy on to his son. This is what we can do as mothers living in a culture of rape, we can teach our boys to honor girls and women by not practicing aggression and violence. What about you? What can you do to help change the current U.S. Culture of Rape to a Culture of Caring Respect for all.



I too have been drugged and raped, and, know, what it is and this woman’s story is soooo believable: http://www.cnn.com/2014/12/05/showbiz/bill-cosby-playboy-accusations/index.html?hpt=ju_c1

and then, there’s the woman who claims Cosby raped her when she was 15:  http://perezhilton.com/2014-12-05-bill-cosby-accuser-file-police-report-lapd-investigation#.VIOBg75N3zI.

OMG and this guy masquerades as ta decent human being, a good ol’ guy. It makes me sick.

What’s your story? What do you have to say?

These women were raped at a time in history when women were taught to hide the fact they’d been raped…they didn’t talk about it…it was shameful. When I told my mother in the late 60s my Dad’s work associate molested me, she said we weren’t ever to talk about it again. These women had these experiences in the 60s at the Playboy Mansion. Not, they raise their voices and cry out against the injustice they endured and, it echoes the systemic violence against women prevalent throughout the world, and includes the current trend of objectification of women for commercial ends or gains.

Well, let’s just shine the light right there and say no more shame no more blame. For where there is smoke there is likely fire. We need solutions. What’s yours?????????? Always open your heart to your sisters.



Coke Pulling /its Sexist Ad:  http://money.cnn.com/2014/12/03/news/companies/coke-milk-ads-sexist/index.html?cid=ob_articlesidebarall&iid=obnetwork



Here is another example of dehumanizing women in our culture but the woman in the photo (you have to follow this link and then scroll down a bit:  http://www.tmz.com), but, in all due respect, the woman in the photo with a live battery pack shoved up her vagina, considers her perspective art.

Weigh in, let us hear your voice.

According to the TMZ Network “the woman wanted to show how humans have become dependent on technology and she felt a super-charged vagina would help make her point.”

I find it offensive and appalling to position a woman’s body like a receptacle for technology, or furniture, etc.  These acts I interpret as demeaning to the essence of true art and beauty, woman, the living expression of existence. I’m uncomfortable with objectification of women (See Allen Jones sculptures: http://www.independent.co.uk/arts-entertainment/art/features/allen-jones-the-model-of-misogyny-9863850.html)

Let’s talk about it.



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