Women's Awareness Blog











This site is created in memory of Skylar Lynn Ringland who went to a music studio in San Francisco in the predawn hours of Easter Sunday, 1999 to meet her boyfriend, Abstract Rude (a/k/a Arron Pointer.)

At 1 pm the following day, she was taken by Abstract to Mount Zion Hospital dead-on-arrival from a massive overdose of GHB. Abstract denied knowing anything about how or where Skylar unintentionally ingested GHB. The case remains a cold case.

The hope of this site is to raise awareness about date-rape drugs, date-rape, rape and the pervasive violence against women and the objectifying and dehumanizing of women from the street of the US to the jungles of Darfur. We are all sisters. If we can raise our awareness, we  can raise the global consciousness concerning systemic violence and abuse against women.

In memory of my beloved daughter, Skylar Lynn, I have written a novel, SHADOW DANCE 03 06 2014 which when published will be available downloading at this site. Currently, if you would like a pre-release copy of the manuscript, Shadow Dance, please request by e-mail via Cat Lynn Boyle, catboyl30@gmail.com. Thank you for following.

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paul turner says:

Skylar was the love of my life. We moved here from Portland together. We had our problems(mostly mine) and broke up. We still talked and even became better friends after. I still love her very much and think of her daily. I can’t even talk to my friends and family about what happened to this angel we call Skylar. To her mom that I hope is reading this I am so sorry and please feel free to get in touch with me. still in San Francisco the place Skylar and I love



sarah says:

Hey Paul
This is Sarah Wolff remember me? Skylar was my best friend and I will never forget her



Skylar Lynn Ringland..was a radiant being..& one of my best friends in college….in life. I can barely type these keys when she floods my memory, and consumes all of the spaces imbetween. Since those days in San Francisco, & all those that subsequently followed, every detail of her precious face has graced me. I moved deep into the heart of Alaska, into a one room cabin outside the Arctic Circle, to recover from her death. I have since traveled the world at any possible turn, & have never quite filled that small void..a place i keep just for her. When my feet are bleeding, I dance harder for her. When my eyes are weary, I call her spirit to guide my tired soul. She is irreplaceable, & a candle of effigy will always burn deep within all whom she graced with her presence. I hope Skylars Mom will contact me through email, as we never spoke again after I left for Alaska. All of my possessions were stolen at one point, including all contact information. Please know I have kept your family in my prayers during all the ceremony across the globe. Through jungles & vast urban landscape, she is always honored in the daily ritual.



Katherine says:

Skylar and I lived together in Austin, Texas in the early 90s. She was such a free spirit. We would listen to music and dance around the house. She would twirl around in her mom’s Gloria Vanderbilt jeans. We would drive around Austin and she would hang out the window and talk to strangers in cars next to us as if she knew them. They would be so enamored with her. Everyone loved to hang out in her room… it was peaceful and had great energy. Skylar was full of fire. We had a male guest in the house one time and he was very hostile towards me. Skylar kicked him out and let him know what an asshole he was. She always had my back. She was a great friend to everyone. I moved back to Chicago and lost touch.. I found her Dad’s number and called him to ask where she was. I could not believe it. I still can’t.
My grandfather is buried not too far from where she is now. At least I can visit her from time to time.



Matt says:

I met Skylar in Austin as we were freshman at UT and immediately we became fast friends and hung out together all of the time. I remember speaking with you Cat after she passed as you explained to me what happened. It was strange i think I was in Canada at the time and you left me a message about her passing so I called you. Perhaps I was in her address book and it was clear to you that we had been close. I have never had another friendship like I had with Skylar. She was so unique and I feel lucky to have known her. I’m so sorry for your loss. Now I’m all “grown up” with two young children of my own and just can’t imagine. In that conversation we had you mentioned you would be initiating something in her memory via a foundation or awareness effort. You also said “remember the good times” which I am. I was watching something set in San Fran and she popped into my head so I googled. How proud and excited she was about San Fran etc. she was so funny about it. How it was so much cooler than Austin. I guess we wish shed never left but I dont think Skylar wouldve have stuck around here anyway. She was so free. I miss her. Anyway I hope you stay well. Matt



Hi Cat,

I met you once during Easter in Portland when you were visiting Skylar, my name is Rebecca. I am so very sorry for your loss. Even though many years have passed by, I imagine it is still very difficult for you.

Thank you for creating this blog. When Skylar died, she had moved to SF from Portland and it was difficult to stay in touch. I visited her once, but I didn’t find out she passed away until two months later and I didn’t have any way to contact you. When she lived in Portland, Skylar was my best friend and I never have found a girl as smart and interesting as she was.

I met Skylar out dancing and became fast friends. Skylar had a remarkable way of making everything an exciting adventure. She knew how to seize an opportunity and squeeze the most out of life. She was ambitious – but she was going to blaze her own unique path. Skylar was a caring and supportive friend. Skylar was brilliant. Absolutely brilliant. Cat, I remember she talked about you and her younger brother all the time and loved you so much.

If you would like to talk, I’d love to share stories with you of our adventures. I will leave my contact information for you.

Hugs



i live in new orleans, louisiana & was dosed at madigan’s bar on s. carrolton. this has happened to me twice before; that’s how i could tell. i was trying to finish the 1 drink someone offered to buy me while i was talking to him out of boredom. had i not had somewhere to be (oh, yeah. i cut myself off & told the bitchy bareep so), i could have been assaulted. it’s happened in the past, then i got wise. i was there w/a date last night & tried to tell the male barkeep what happened. only to learn the girl from the other night was telling everyone i had been hustling drinks. if you live around here, or ever come here, avoid this bar.b/c they don’t care & just may tell lies to discredit you.



btw, my company last night was someone i know. i was just accused of bs last night.



if anyone on this site would like to converse w/someone who has gone through things that have brought male friends to tears, but has recovered from the trauma 1 on 1, i’m margaret a marley on fb. just message me.



Chad Sinclair says:

Dear Cat, I am glad to have been able to visit you here in Austin . I look forward to the rest of your book coming out . I often think about the time I spent with Skylar and how much I loved every second of it. She was like no other girl , I had ever met ,poetic , witty , amazingly pretty ,excellent artist , knew every hip hop song and could dance the night away. Also, she made the best mac and cheese . We shared a lot of the same interest. I think my visit helped set my heart at ease because I loved her. There is a lot of injustice in the world today , I can’t say that I am perfect but I have done a lot of good as well . I saw the movie Lucy today and she was using 40 % of her brain at that point and said “we are interested in more of what we want then being human” . I am just sorry that it had to happen to skylar . Skylar would be proud of you a true Scottish woman .



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