Women's Awareness Blog











The power of cartoons to get at the TRUTH: https://www.ted.com/talks/liza_donnelly_drawing_upon_humor_for_change

Be who you are, be true to your self. What other people think about you is none of your business.

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Gender and Sexuality are different concepts

Male & Female = Gender

There are 2 options for everyone on the planet, which can be broken down into 3 distinct pieces: Gender Identity; Gender Expression; and Biological Sex (reproductive organs i.e., penises and vaginas are the determinant of gender).

But, gender is not universal, is not cross-cultural and gender changes over time.

But, gender is relative, is cultural, and gender, the way we express it, changes over time.

But if someone has a penis he’s raised as a male; if someone has a vagina she’s raised as a female

But gender is really about how you make sense of your sexuality in your head…its based on many determinants…about how you line up with the expectations associated with reproductive organs (according to a TED speaker: http://itspronouncedmetrosexual.com/2013/05/my-ted-talk-understanding-the-complexities-of-gender/)

But, some people…have a different gender identity than one of the two options (male or female) like transgender and all the other categories of gender related to human beings in the 21st century.

Gender isn’t something you can understand in ten minutes. Its more complex than just whether one has a vagina or a penis. So, what’s going on?

In summary according to a TED speaker, your biological sex (or the parts you’re born with) is only a component of gender, its not a determinate of who you are as body parts don’t necessarily mandate who you’re going to be.

Not all people fall into the binary gender categories of male and female…trans-gender, transvestite, genderqueer, agender, etc. if you’re born with a penis you’re taught to be a  boy; if you’re born with a vagina you’re taught to be a girl. But the two gender categories don’t express the complexity that exists.

Gender Equality is about the freedom to uniquely express gender without binary categories or stereotypical judgments.

Now, we need space…to allow everyone, despite how they biologically present, to express their gender uniquely and feel safe when they don’t fit into a binary gender world.

It’s complicated. Forget what you’ve been narrowly taught to believe about gender and Raise your Awareness, opening your heart to allow acceptance of everyone’s relative expression of gender.



The quote by Lakshmi Puri, Assistant Secretary-General of the U.N. and Deputy Executive Director of U.N. Women, marks the anniversary of the International Day for the elimination of violence against women (November 25 through Dec. 10 Human Rights Day.) 16 Days of Activism are meant to raise global awareness of the violence endured by women and girls around the world, Puri explains.

Paradigm Shift ~ Men need to be a part of the conversation: Gender Violence is a MEN’s issue. Men hear Women’s issue or gender issue, and they tune out. Our entire cognitive structure is set up to ask questions about woman..what their doing (behavior) or thinking…why does she continue to date that guy, why does she keep going back to him, why does she dress like that.

BUT, let’s shift that paradigm and start asking the questions in terms of men: Why do so many men rape women? Why do men rape men? What about all those boys who have been traumatized by male violence? It seems obvious when spoken out loud. We need more men who have the courage to stand up and start asking the right questions. The by-stander approach instead of seeing women as victims and men as perpetrators…see anyone who is not a victim or perpetrators…and ask…how do we not remain silent.

We have to find men–adult men with power–who are not abusive to stand up and interpret the behavior (violence against women). WATCH: http://www.ted.com/talks/jackson_katz_violence_against_women_it_s_a_men_s_issue?language=en

Caring deeply is not enough we need men with power to take a stand for Women’s human rights.

“…There is one universal truth, applicable to all countries, cultures and communities: violence against women is never acceptable, never excusable, never tolerable.”
UN Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon



Did you know that your biggest defense tool is your voice? Most assailants want the people they attack to stay as peaceful as possible so that such people do not attract any response. So if someone attacks SCREAM attract a lot of attention to yourself.

Did you know this…Anything you do in a violent, life-threatening situation that does not cause an injury is worthless to you. This article goes on to say you’ve got about 5 SECONDS in a violent attack. http://www.womenshealthmag.com/life/self-defense-techniques

5 SECONDS against a man. A violent man. How well might you do? What would you do. Remember 5 SECONDS> You know what, as women we need practice…we need training. I’ve heard positive things about the Israel self-defense training. I think we owe it to our daughters, grand-daughters, nieces, and all you dear sisters our there around the planet…to be responsible for protecting ourselves against attack…we need to focus our attention on learning the art of self-defense.



The Most Culturally Destructive Mandate in Our Culture: Be A Man! Stop with tears…stop with the sissy stuff…BE A MAN… https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jVI1Xutc_Ws

Tony Porter’s CALL TO MEN…redefining what it means to be a man, the “Man Box…” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=td1PbsV6B80

The Code of being a guy (Bill Pozzobon) From birth we are defined by gender…https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VDpuJXgD7Rs

Dr.Ryan McKelly, Unmasking Masculinity…The Importance of Social Connection. Anger masking vulnerability…: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LBdnjqEoiXA



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