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As many of you, who have followed my blog in the past, know, I’ve been distracted by the intensive work of editing a novel, Shadow Dance, which is written in memory of my beloved daughter, who died as a result of a GHB poisoning, and, for whom this site is in memoriam. I am so thrilled to inform you that the work of editing is paying off. Shadow Dance has received literary mention, by the William Faulkner Literary Awards for 2015 Best Novel Honorable Mention!

It will not be long before Shadow Dance will be available in bookstores, as well as if you place a request here for a free copy once published in gratitude for following and supporting raising awareness of violence against women.

WFLA 2015 Best Novel Honorable Mention Shadow Dance Cat Lynn Boyle

FOLLOW HERE AND CLICK ON “SHADOW DANCE” to read a copy.

http://williamfaulknerliterarycompetition.com/2015-winners/



“The one thing a violent rapist deserves is to face is a good woman with a gun!” That was Wayne LaPierre, executive director of the National Rifle Association, the standard bearers for America’s gun lobby, making the case that personal firearms prevent rape.” http://www.theguardian.com/science/blog/2013/mar/25/guns-protection-national-rifle-association WHAT DO YOU THINK. If you were about to be raped how would you feel if you had your gun to pull? Empowered? What’s your take?

According to National Sporting Goods Association, female participation in target shooting grew by 46.5 percent between 2001 and 2010, to 4.89 million shooters. The National Rifle Association reports an increase in female participants in classes and events by as much as 20 percent…http://www.theatlantic.com/national/archive/2012/07/girls-with-guns-how-arming-more-women-could-change-america/260421/  It make sense that women are showing up. Why go to the slaughter unarmed. Men will think twice when it becomes a fact that women are armed for protection.

About half (48%) of gun owners said the main reason they owned a gun was for protection, according to a Pew Research Center survey conducted in February 2013. About three-in-ten (32%) said they owned a gun for hunting. That was a turnaround from 1999 when 49% said they owned a gun for hunting and 26% said they had a gun for protection in an ABC News/Washington Post poll… http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2014/04/24/5-facts-about-the-nra-and-guns-in-america/  The statistics don’t lie. According to the U.S. Department of Justice, somewhere in America, a woman is raped every 2 minutes.  http://www.lifeafterdatingapsycho.com/blog/dating-violence-statistics-and-definitions

Make it your personal goal to take some form of self-defense classes in 2015.



{December 23, 2014}   Portrait of Systemic Misogyny

Rant from UCSB Shooter, Elliott Rodger :

“On the day of retribution, I am going to enter the hottest sorority house at UCSB and I will slaughter every single spoiled, stuck-up, blond slut I see inside there. All those girls I’ve desired so much. They have all rejected me and looked down on me as an inferior man if I ever made a sexual advance toward them, while they throw themselves at these obnoxious brutes,” the video says. “I take great pleasure in slaughtering all of you. You will finally see that I am, in truth, the superior one, the true alpha male.”  https://www.insidehighered.com/news/2014/05/27/uc-santa-barbara-students-killed-shooting-rampage

“It’s Not All Men” is the media lament…men like Rodgers are the exception…BUT according to Michael Laser, in his article about Jiam Ghomeshi (Canadian writer/musician & CBC radio host –Serial Women Abuser… http://globalnews.ca/news/1647091/timeline-sex-assault-allegations-arise-after-cbc-fires-jian-ghomeshi/) , he says, “…that is bullshit…It is all men. We, collectively…are responsible for creating…conditions that not only facilitate Ghomeshi, but that ensure he will exist.

This is a very uncomfortable and inconvenient truth. It is all men and the society that they produced that allowed a misogynist, alleged serial abuser to rise to and feel comfortable within the halls of media and fame, despite the now known and clear indications that he was a predator all along and that many, many people could have done something about it but did not.

The people who knew did not care. He was famous. He was a celebrity in our eyes. He had very real institutional power. And so, as is increasingly clear, even though everyone on the inside seemingly either “knew” or had an inkling that he was a predator, no one did anything.

No one did anything…Despite all the protestations to the contrary, this is as old as male patriarchal power and is entirely predictable in a male supremacist “culture” of institutionalized pornography and prostitution and of male violence and sexual power as an accepted norm…The very nature of systemic oppression means…We have all, especially as men, participated in the “locker room” or trash-talking objectification of women and in the creation of a culture and context in which a Ghomeshi would feel right at home…

Given the fact that misogynist predators like Bill Cosby, R Kelly, Woody Allen and many others can continue to be famous, respected and embraced as “artists” despite the established reality of what they have done to women and girls, why would anyone be either surprised by Ghomeshi and his enablers or the fact that he got away with it for so long?”    http://feministcurrent.com/9789/it-is-all-men-our-culture-of-predatory-misogyny/

HOW SOCIETY CONTROL WOMEN via SHIT POLITiANS AND WHAT THEY HAVE TO SAY ABOUT WOMEN”S REPRODUCTIVE RIGHTS even in situations of rape and incest: http://www.politicususa.com/proof-war-women-2

It is a struggle to understand why a woman’s reproductive rights, who describe abortion as a lifestyle convenience for women is the focus of so many men dominating the U.S. Congress. Do you, as a women, get the felling you have little control over your own female body and reproductive rights? It’s as though women’s bodies are a means to an end, reproduction.

Like Tina Fey said, “If I have to listen to one more grey-faced man with a $2 haircut explain to me what rape is, I’m going to lose my mind.”

The Media’s Ideal Woman & Objectification of Women…Despite the physical, cognitive, emotional, and spiritual obstacles in the quest to achieve idealized beauty, women continue to chase it.

..To combat sexism and objectification, society must reshape its patriarchal framework and move towards more egalitarian standards.

Therefore, working towards a society where women can walk safely down the street without fear of assault, or can look in the mirror without negative mental and physical consequences begins internally and hopefully effects the external environment.  http://newyorksociologist.org/11/Berberick2011.pdf

Change your thoughts (ignore the media) about who you are as woman and watch the external world transform. What is your idea for eliminating violence against women, eliminating objectification of women, and ending politics that diminish a woman’s reproductive rights.



Allen Jones—known for his sculptures of semi-dressed women in bondage gear, contorted to look like household objects—Jones sidesteps his abhorrent perpetuation of misogyny and attempts to justify the series by self-identifying as a feminist:   http://msmagazine.com/blog/2014/10/31/artist-who-objectifies-women-declares-himself-a-feminist/  and they call the objectification of women art?

perhaps Mr. Jones like others who want to cash in…are using the word feminism to disguise their actions under a banner of equality and are using this banner as a shield to not only deflect any criticism of their actions…

IS THE GLASS HALF EMPTY OR HALF FULL???  (one man’s perspective) FEMINISM MARGINALIZING MEN: The difference between feminists and men, is we don’t see the feminist movement as a movement for equality. Most of us see feminism as the movement that is responsible for men and boys becoming increasingly marginalised in society and eroding our legal rights….Men see feminism as a movement that places the interests of women above the interests of the other half of the population. A movement for female supremacy…The hate of men within feminism is systemic…  http://masculistfeminist.hubpages.com/hub/Why-So-Many-People-Are-Against-Feminism  WHY DOES A MOVEMENT FOR EQUALITY BETWEEN THE SEXES MEAN FEMINIST HATE MEN?  EQUALITY BETWEEN THE SEXES MEANS WHOLENESS AND UNITY…THE YING AND THE YANG..ONE IS NOT SUPERIOR OR INFERIOR TO THE OTHER BUT NECESSARY PARTS OF THE WHOLE. IT IS NOT ABOUT HATE ITS ABOUT WHOLENESS.

You can object to modern, pre-packaged “feminism” and not be crazy. http://www.dallasnews.com/opinion/sunday-commentary/20141010-heather-wilhelm-dont-buy-pre-packaged-feminism.ece

FEMINISM IS NOT ABOUT HATING MEN: It’s about wanting the same rights, chances and privileges that men have…http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/jun/30/what-feminism-really-about-katharine-whitehorn

What Men Say About Why Some Men Are Still Afraid of Feminism: http://www.michaelkaufman.com/2012/why-are-some-men-still-afraid-of-feminism/

A CALL TO ALL GOOD MEN..The appalling words the world is saying about our daughters / THANK YOU Michael Kaufman  http://www.michaelkaufman.com/2013/appalling-words-the-world-is-saying-about-our-daughters/    ….We [Men / Dads] need to get our acts together and make sure we’re speaking out in our homes and communities against attitudes and jokes that belittle girls and women. That try to limit women’s control over their own bodies—like limiting access to birth control or safe abortion. That blame women for rape. That turn a blind eye against violence towards women.

[Men / Dads] need to challenge all those sexist attitudes around us. We need to take on those in our places of worship who assign women a second-class place in our religions, like saying women can’t be priests, imams, or rabbis, or that teach that men should be in charge in the home. We need to speak out to the teams we coach, the boys we teach, the men we work or play with.  http://masculistfeminist.hubpages.com/hub/Why-So-Many-People-Are-Against-FeminismTHIS IS WHAT

IN MY MIND, FEMINISM IS ABOUT, WHOLENESS AND HEALING. ITS ABOUT HEALING THE DIVISIONS BETWEEN THE SEXES NOT ELEVATING AS SUPERIOR OR DEMOTING AS INFERIOR…BUT EQUAL AND WHOLE. .ITS ABOUT BALANCE AND INTEGRITY.



{September 21, 2014}   HAS ANYONE SEEN HANNAH?

WHERE’S HANNAH??? http://www.cnn.com/video/data/2.0/video/us/2014/09/21/nr-sot-missing-uva-student-parents.cnn.html



It has been fifteen years since my daughter was poisoned with GHB at a music studio and the incidents of GHB and date rape drugs to victimize and commit violence against women continues under the blind eye of a nation too tolerant to eradicate the behavior.

Fraternity Parties & Date-rape-druggings: http://www.cnn.com/2014/09/20/us/date-rape-drug-probe/index.html?hpt=hp_t1

Obama Takes Is a strong advocate for Women in his position that Violence Against Women is Unacceptable sending a message that our society doesn’t VALUE or RESPECT women: http://www.cnn.com/video/?/video/bestoftv/2014/09/19/bts-wh-obama-campus-sexual-assault.cnn&hpt=hp_t1&from_homepage=yes&video_referrer=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.cnn.com%2F Obama ask MEN to set an example to Reject the QUIET TOLERANCE of VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN. AWESOME!

When it gets right down to it there are only two emotions for men and women: LOVE and FEAR. All negativity flows from fear like aggression, assault, anger, hate, jealousy, envy, etc. Bringing negative energy and negative karma into the world. It’s a choice! Choose LOVE for all those whose lives are compromised or ended, daily, because of fear and drugs. Be Aware. Always take your BF with you. Never leave a drink unattended. Stay AWARE of your surroundings.

P.S. Still deeply involved in a deep edit of my manuscript, Shadow Dance, written in memory of my daughter, and soon to be posted and published.



PERMISSION TO DREAM: http://www.justyellfire.com/movie.php?video=JYF_Permission-to-Dream#content
Dream Your Best You…

Antidotes ~
pd id: Personal Drink Identification Device, can detect whether your drink has been drugged in just a few seconds. Founder David Wilson and his Toronto-based team are crowdfunding on Indiegogo…See this video on pd id: http://www.elle.com/news/lifestyle/pd-id-device-detects-date-rape-drug

and see: http://www.bbc.com/capital/specials/protection-now/spotted/partygoers-engage-new-high-tech-device-against-spiked-drinks_a-1-151.html

Jada Pinkett speaks out after her niece is drugged with date rape drug: http://www.eonline.com/news/561981/jada-pinkett-smith-speaks-out-against-date-rape-and-sexual-assault-after-her-niece-was-drugged

Democracy Now & enlisted women ages 18 to 21 THE INVISIBLE WAR ~ The Epidemic of Rape in the US Military Watch Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IAKiCdD0hkE, Estimated 70 sexual assaults a day in the military (26,000 sexual assaults in 2012): watch Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7jtt-NPBnN0

THE INVISIBLE WAR: Watch in full https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b8i_WoaIyM4

DON’T BE SILENT ABOUT RAPE ~ SPEAK YOUR TRUTH: ww.giftfromwithin.org/pdf/acquaintance_rape.pdf

Be empowered learn self-defense and…JUST YELL FIRE! (GIVES ME GOOSE BUMPS) WE NEED TO OPEN OUR THROAT CHAKRA AND JUST YELL “FIRE!” – WATCH THE VIDEO: ww.giftfromwithin.org/pdf/acquaintance_rape.pdf

BE ALL YOU CAN BE
Step out into the cool night air. Look at the stars. See how they shine. Know that is is okay for you to shine, too.
Who told you you had to hold back? Who told you your gifts, your talents, your beauty, [your sexuality]–your natural, beautiful, loving, delightful self–was wrong? Who told you not to be all you could be? Maybe, as some suggest, we’ve gotten too comfortable focusing on our flaws, our errors, our dark side. Perhaps its not our dark side we fear. Perhaps, we’re really afraid of our gifts, our brilliance, our light.
Now is a time of light. It’s time for us to shine. We’ve worked hard for ourselves, death with our issues, gone back to the past. We’ve learned our lessons well. The reasons to hold back and hide away are no longer there. Enjoy the fruits of your labors.
Be all you can be, and enjoy being that. Don’t hold back. Use your gifts with joy. Use your talen=ts. Let your light shine for all the world to see. Melody Beattie

LOOK AT THE STARS…LOOK HOW THEY SHINE FOR YOU AND EVERYTHING YOU DO…https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1MwjX4dG72s

Namaste



{July 18, 2014}   Brave Miss World

I saw the above documentary on Netflix and it is amazing. Read how Miss World 1998, uses the trauma of rape to empower her and now, to take that energy into the world empowering other women and asking them to join her voice to speak out and no longer be silent and violence against women. What an amazing woman. Watch and listen to her story: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F6AXRNgVbgc

http://www.cnn.com/2014/07/16/living/brave-miss-world-emmy/index.html?hpt=hp_c3



MEET NFL DARREN SHARPER SERIAL DATE RAPE PREDATOR USING DATE RAPE DRUGS TO DRUG VICTIMS IN MULTIPLE JURISDICTIONS: http://bleacherreport.com/articles/2013700-who-is-darren-sharper-date-rape-allegations-raise-serious-questions

FORBES – The Ten Most Dangerous U.S. Cities for Women: http://www.forbes.com/sites/meghancasserly/2012/04/26/most-dangerous-us-cities-women-anchorage-fairbanks-flint/

GENDER BASED VIOLENCE: Violence against women and girls is one of the most disturbing aspects of living in a culture that promotes a hierarchy of power in human relationships according to class, race, and gender, among other divisions. In the United States, a woman is more likely to be assaulted, injured, raped, or murdered by a male partner than by any other type of attacker. According to the National Woman Abuse Prevention Project, approximately 3 to 4 million women are beaten each year and more than 1,000 women-an estimated 4 per day-are murdered by their husbands or partners…it is estimated that a woman is battered every 15 seconds…Sexual assault is considered to be the fastest growing yet least reported crime. According to statistics, a rape is committed every 6 minutes. …The phrase “a man’s home is his castle” sends a message that such violence is a private matter. http://www2.edc.org/WomensEquity/pubs/digests/digest-gbviolence.html

PRESIDENT OBAMA’S PLEAS TO MEN TO STOP VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN – CHANGING A CULTURE OF RAPE: The president said a priority was to find ways to encourage more men to intervene when they see an attack or to report assaults. “I want every young man in America to feel some strong peer pressure in terms of how they are supposed to behave and treat women,” Mr. Obama said. “Men have to take more responsibility; men have to intervene,” he added. “The measure of manhood is willingness to speak up and speak out, and begin to change the culture.”

COLLEGE AGED WOMEN ARE THE HIGHEST RISK GROUP FOR DATE RAPE BY DRUGS OR ACOHOL: RAINN recommends (TO PRESIDENT OBAMA’S TASK FORCE) a three-tiered approach when it comes to preventing sexual violence on college campuses. A prevention campaign should include the following elements:
1. Bystander intervention education: empowering community members to act in response to acts of sexual violence.
2. Risk-reduction messaging: empowering members of the community to take steps to increase their personal safety.
3. General education to promote understanding of the law, particularly as it relates to the ability to consent. https://rainn.org/images/03-2014/WH-Task-Force-RAINN-Recommendations.pdf

What does all this mean? Well, one, if you’re female your have a one in four chance of being assaulted in your lifetime. But, if your are a college lady you also have a one in four chance of being raped, http://listen.nycagainstrape.org/learn.html, and it’s likely to be assisted by date rape drugs and alcohol. But rape and violence against women followed a fundamental shift in society from a matriarchal culture to a patriarchal society supported by a bible that designates woman the property of man lesser by alleged acts of Eve so, to say rape is a cultural phenomena diminishes the fact that violence against women is a global systemic fact of life. It will require a shift in consciousness for some men to eradicate predatorily instincts toward women and toward children. These are ancient issues acerbated by the prolific availability of drugs and alcohol available to men to subdue unsuspecting women and children. These predators are men. Only men perpetrate crimes and violence against women that spans the globe. The president clearly understands that raising the consciousness of men to act from their inherent goodness and align men in nobler roles towards women. It is but a small step for women but the journey begins with the first step. It’s a beginning. But it’s a systemic issue that must be eradicated at its root like slavery and other forms of prejudice and oppression. Talk about oppressive, look to other women throughout the third world and

other developing countries where violence against women is also engrained culturally as throughout the world. It is men who rape and prey on women.

It is a male issue in a world dominated by men. As women in America we can negotiate our rights through the legislative process and believe we are making gains. But, it seems we are negotiating what is ours as human beings regardless of gender. We have a right to be free from fear of our own friends, or favorite cousin, or uncle or father, or brother, or your dad’s business partner. They all might be a potential predator.

As women today in the present moment we must remain vigilant and always go out with a BFF and never leave drinks unattended, or take one from a stranger. And, above all we can strive to raise our sons to love and honor and respect women and all human beings and raise awareness of a woman’s right as a human being to live free from predatorily threats of random and premeditated acts of violence.



{July 7, 2014}   Round Up The Usual Suspects

How do pharmacutical companies get permitted to manufacturer GHB derivative products marked by other names via physician promotions? Doctors Peddling GHB derivative products…federal crimes arising from his participation in a nationwide scheme to unlawfully promote the medication Xyrem, also known as sodium oxybate and gamma-hydroxybutyrate (“GHB”), to prescribing physicians for non-approved medical purposes…

Why are recipes like this one for making GHB prolific online? http://www.angelfire.com/planet/organicchemistry/Index/page%203%20chemical%20drugs/page%203.3.3.htm

Why is GHB continuously manufacture red and sold on black market? Because there is a perpetual demand. A hole or a vacancy that people try to to fill when it would dissolve on its own…

Its staggering when you think about the fact that the illegal drug market in the United States is one of the most profitable in the world.
http://www.p olicyalmanac.org/crime/archive/drug_trafficking.shtml

It’s the law…ignored by many: http://www.justice.gov/usao/eousa/foia_reading_room/usam/title4/civ00016.ht

Fact is no one is going to help you but you can help yourself by raising your GHB AWARENESS.

Addicted to GHB? Get Help: http://www.addiction411.com/ghb/

Then there is this whole issue of GHB Dependancy: http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=5&ved=0CEYQFjAE&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.researchgate.net%2Fpublication%2F256424256_GHB_GBL_and_14-BD_Addiction%2Ffile%2F9c960529b4eabe4c2d.pdf&ei=h_W6U-CqGcqa8QGzyYHADQ&usg=AFQjCNGkX9Pgj0Y6UO8LhDtfW8aKGOUchg&sig2=GA3jTm5SNddRw7SR9-0CNg

Think you know enough about GHB to try it? Then, keep reading and follow this link: http://www.who.int/medicines/areas/quality_safety/5GHBPreReview.pdf



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