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{June 3, 2016}   Katie Koestner

Bringing her story of date rape to the world, Katie Koestner (http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-36434191), kept her story alive. We know it can happen to any girl or woman. It can happen if your female. Thank you Katie Koestler for awareness you have provided by telling your story until people listened. Thank you. I know there are many of you out there that have a story too. Let us hear your voice. Join the conversation.

Please, help keep my daughter, Skylar’s story alive. Its a story about how a young 22 year old girl can innocently or unknowingly open doors and hearts to predators in their midst. I have written a novel, called Sophie’s Shadow. (previously written as SHADOWDANCE by Cat Lynn Boyle as of 2016 03 20by Cat Lynn Boyle as of 2016 03 20) It tells my daughter’s story. It’s about what happened to her one dawn when her boyfriend invited her after hours to his studio. Seven hours laters, she died in his arms after ingesting a drink laced with the date rape drug, GHB. Skylar’s case is a cold case, and, what her case needs is the attention Katie Koestler is able to incite around her experience with date rape. Katie Koestner is the hero, I’m not. If any of you reading this blog have ideas about how to build momentum around Skylar’s story, please reply with your ideas. And, Katie, if you read my blog, I’d really enjoy hearing more of your story. Thank you for following.

 



If you’re going out to celebrate New Year’s be sure to take your best friends and stay aware of your circumstances, predators lurk. They watch for lonely drunk girls they can isolate. Know the source of your drink and examine its location at all times. Be discerning. Predators hunt for prey.

According to one author…a recent study showed that most men who hit on women in bars aren’t intoxicated. And they’re more likely to target women the more drunk the women are. It’s not about sex, or sloppy mistakes. It’s about men who see drunk women as easy prey. http://feminismformyfather.com/2014/06/23/on-predators-at-the-bar/

If you don’t have friends or relatives to go out and celebrate with, make your own party at home and be grateful for the wisdom in staying safe at home with the remote and a bag of chips.

Have A Happy New Year!



I too have been drugged and raped, and, know, what it is and this woman’s story is soooo believable: http://www.cnn.com/2014/12/05/showbiz/bill-cosby-playboy-accusations/index.html?hpt=ju_c1

and then, there’s the woman who claims Cosby raped her when she was 15:  http://perezhilton.com/2014-12-05-bill-cosby-accuser-file-police-report-lapd-investigation#.VIOBg75N3zI.

OMG and this guy masquerades as ta decent human being, a good ol’ guy. It makes me sick.

What’s your story? What do you have to say?

These women were raped at a time in history when women were taught to hide the fact they’d been raped…they didn’t talk about it…it was shameful. When I told my mother in the late 60s my Dad’s work associate molested me, she said we weren’t ever to talk about it again. These women had these experiences in the 60s at the Playboy Mansion. Not, they raise their voices and cry out against the injustice they endured and, it echoes the systemic violence against women prevalent throughout the world, and includes the current trend of objectification of women for commercial ends or gains.

Well, let’s just shine the light right there and say no more shame no more blame. For where there is smoke there is likely fire. We need solutions. What’s yours?????????? Always open your heart to your sisters.



Ironic that quote is by a man but the point is, WOMEN ARE NOT THE PROBLEM THEY’RE THE SOLUTION _ HALF THE SKY

Follow link to video:  http://vialogue.wordpress.com/2012/04/12/half-the-sky-review-notes/

The global statistics on the abuse of girls are numbing. It appears that more girls have been killed in the last fifty years, precisely because they were girls, than men were killed in all the battles of the twentieth century. More girls are killed in this routine “gendercide” in any one decade than people were slaughtered in all the genocides of the twentieth century. | In the nineteenth century, the central moral challenge was slavery. In the twentieth century, it was the battle against totalitarianism. We believe that in this century the paramount moral challenge will be the struggle for gender equality around the world. http://vialogue.wordpress.com/2012/04/12/half-the-sky-review-notes/

You must be the change you wish to see in the world. – Mahatma Gandhi



What have women gained in the move to empower women…

In 1920 American women won the right to vote.

By the 1930s, only 13 women won seats in congress.

In the U.S., during the 1960s social upheaval women took to the streets and burned their bras in response to the phenomenon known as the women’s movement, which intended a shift in consciousness of men and women concerning gender equality for women. Women during the 60s also gained access to birth control pills.

In the 70s Women gained reproductive rights through the legalization of abortion.

In the 80 Women took control of their economic fates and now make up more than half of the workforce (51%) but earn only 80% of their male cohorts; and, only  2% of corporate bosses for Fortune 500 companies are women. Yet, Childless women in corporate America earn almost as much as men. Mothers with partners earn less and single mothers much less. [A] survey in America indicates 74% of parents said that they did not have enough time for their children.    http://www.economist.com/node/15174418

As a result of the shifts and changes during the 60s, 70s, and 80s American women lived very different lives in the 90s from women of the 50s. In 1990, Congress passed a law to provide federal funds for child care.., and created the Family and Medical Leave Act. In the 90s two-parents working became the norm to meet growing expenses for housing and rising education costs, and live comfortable lives. Bill Clinton during the 90s recognized and committed to recognizing the contributions made by women in all walks of life, and committed his administration to advancing the status of women.  http://shenyang.usembassy-china.org.cn/uploads/images/KYFFp59L1dwF5zj84P2KNg/women-role.pdf

But Ways TODAY we are still repressing women (in 26 ways according to this report) Only in a culture that passively accepts sexism would people think that these were appropriate things to say or do. If we remain silent, we are nothing but accomplices to an age-old crime. But I’m just a woman…what do I know?

1. We associate rape with accidents (Barbara Listing, an anti-abortion leader, argued that Michigan women should be forced to pay extra for health insurance to cover the cost of rape. According to Barbara, no one plans to get into a car accident or to be flooded, but they still pay insurance in case of these events…)

2. We allow women or girls to be forced into marriage every 2 minutes ~ A recent study by Plan UK revealed that every single day, across the world, 38,461 women and girls are being forced into marriages against their will. Many of these lives are exchanged for money or to settle an unrelated debt. This number doesn’t even include the unbelievably young girls that are forced into prostitution on a daily basis.

3. We tell girls they need to act a certain way in order to have value ~ Justin Lookadoo, a religious dating coach and public speaker, made some pretty ignorant comments…website…“Be mysterious. Dateable girls know how to shut up.” and “Need him. Dateable girls know that guys need to be needed. A Dateable girl isn’t Miss Independent.”   THIS SOUNDS LIKE THE “COOL GIRL” RAP

4. We believe they have a right to do what they want to women’s bodies ~ Just listen to the Right discuss women’s reproductive rights, etc.

5. Priorities are completely DISTORTED when it comes to Sexual Violence against women ~ A female prisoner who was repeatedly raped and assaulted by one of her guards was told that there was nothing the warden could do about it… except put her on birth control…clearly rape was preferable to an unwanted pregnancy.

6. We think its okay to discriminate based on biology ~ Fox News medical “expert” Dr. David Samadi claims that forcing men and women to pay equally for health insurance is unfair…his most convincing argument, however, is the fact that women have both breasts and ovaries, while men only have the prostate.

7. We still don’t understand teenagers cannot give consent ~ Teacher Stacey Rambold was convicted of repeatedly raping his fourteen-year-old student, who later killed herself during the course of the trial. But instead of receiving an appropriate punishment, he spent only thirty days in jail, because according to the judge, the victim was “older than her chronological age” and was “as in as much control of the situation” as her teacher.

8 We blame the victim ~ Criminal defense attorney Joseph DiBenedetto appeared across cable TV in October to remark on the terrible rape case of a Missouri teenager. While discussing the logistics of the case, DiBenedetto speculated that the fourteen-year-old victim was actually a conniving little liar: “She is leaving her home at 1 a.m. in the morning… And what happens? She gets caught by her mom, she’s embarrassed, and the easy way out here is, ‘Mom, someone took advantage of me.'” He continued, “What did she expect to happen at 1 a.m. in the morning after sneaking out?

9. We still have the audacity to use violence against women to sell products ~ A signage company in Texas decided to show how “realistic” its vehicle decals were by depicting a woman tied up in the back of a pickup truck. The ploy was obviously met with outrage from anyone who saw the decal— a reaction the owner of the company says he didn’t anticipate. Honestly, it’s hard to tell which mentality is dumber: the idea that this ad gimmick would be ok, or that other people would agree with you.

10.  We still claim that some things are very specifically meant for a “man’s world” ~ San Francisco sports radio host Damon Bruce really believes that in spite of the overwhelming number of women that participate in sports, they really have no idea what they’re talking about when it comes to discussing them. “A lot of sports has lost its way, and I’m gonna tell you, part of the reason is because we’ve got women giving us directions,” he said as he shook his finger and made us feel really, really sorry.

11. We continue not to take domestic violence serious ~ {How many times do you cases like the following? How about all the time!] Stephanie Bond is lucky to be alive. Her ex-husband, Gabriel Omo-Osagie, was arrested for domestic battery in November, 2009. She filed a restraining order against him, but the man was still allowed to see her children on weekdays for nine hours a day. Omo-Osagie was acquiring more firearms even though he’d had his license revoked after the incident, and he admitted to the police that he had violated the surprisingly generous custody agreement. Bond reported all of this to the police. Nothing was done. In February of 2010, Omo-Osagie shot his ex-wife three times before taking his own life. Miraculously, Bond survived…

12. Workplace discrimination is still rampant ~ Jessica Benefield, a former executive chef at a Nashville restaurant called Virago, is accusing CEO Chris Hyndman of subjecting his female employees to physical, verbal, and sexual harassment. Hyndman allegedly had a scale for which he would rank both staff and customers based on “hotness” and asked staff members to bring in “hot chicks for him to meet and entertain.” Despite the fact that Benefield was an award-winning chef and received great performance reviews at work, she was terminated immediately for “making false and malicious statements about superiors” after she complained about the treatment of female workers. Nothing says “malicious” like “Stop making it uncomfortable for me to come to work,” right?

13. We consider maxi pads and tampons to be more dangerous than guns ~ “Let’s take away an armed woman’s period supplies. What could possibly go wrong?” Such was the apparent thought process of a bunch of security guards at a Texas courthouse as they confiscated tampons and maxi pads, but allowed anyone with a concealed carry permit to take their guns right in with them…The reason for the sudden fear of cotton and cardboard was due to the fact that the subject to be presented that day was whether or not abortion clinics in the state would remain open.

14. We believe beautiful is not beautiful enough ~ Hunger Games star Jennifer Lawrence is the actress that was desperately needed to wake up Hollywood. She portrays strong female characters and has been known to condemn the industry’s desire for unhealthily thin women. She has stated that she would never drop to an unhealthy weight just for a role. So when Canadian fashion magazine “Flare” released their cover of a VERY photoshopped Jennifer, it was all the more ridiculous. Not only did they make the already-beautiful star even thinner, but they also moved her collar bone down. Magazines are sending a very clear message that if your boobs aren’t big enough, your eyes aren’t bright enough, and a small vehicle can’t drive between your thighs, you shouldn’t be in the picture at all.

15. Our advertisements depict objects rather than people (objectification of women)~ Despite the fact that studies have suggested that sex actually doesn’t sell, advertisers continue to undress women for the sake of getting more people to watch their stuff. The issue, however, is not the fact that a beautiful lady is strutting her stuff for some cash. But the cinematography looks like a science class dissection for teenage boys. They show you the girl’s body in sections (BUTT. BOOBS. BUTT. LEGS. BOOBS. burger. CROTCH. burger. BOOBS.), which turns her into a series of objects rather than a human being.

16. We still think an erection is more important than birth control ~ Many pre-Obamacare health insurance programs cover erectile dysfunction drugs, vasectomies, vacuum erection devices, and even penile implants. But when rumors started swirling around that women might soon get their birth control covered by insurance, a lot of people got kind of upset. Many companies, including Domino’s Farms (owned by Tom Monaghan, the guy who founded Domino’s Pizza) are claiming that their health insurance policies shouldn’t have to cover contraceptives, citing religious freedom. In a lawsuit filed by Monaghan, he claims that since the Catholic Church considers contraception a ‘grave sin,’ his company shouldn’t have to provide insurance that pays for it. He also likened the morning-after pill to abortion, even though the pill’s job is to stop fetuses (and therefore abortions) from ever happening in the first place. Believe it or not, both men and women have sex. We’re just trying to prevent pregnancy that can be caused by all those government-funded boners.

17 We allow rapist to sue for custody ~In Massachusetts in 2009, a fourteen-year-old girl was raped by 20-year-old Jamie Melendez, who was sentenced to sixteen years of probation, which involved him going to family court once a week. Melendez then argued that he should have visitation rights to the child that he fathered through the rape since he was paying child support. It seems a little ridiculous until you realize that thirty-one states allow rapists to sue for custody, at which point it becomes completely ridiculous. The victim is desperate (and suing the state) to end the relationship between her and Melendez, but if she fails to show up at any of her scheduled court dates over the next sixteen years, she risks losing custody of her daughter.

17. We continue to be a willing audience for misogynist  ~ Rush Limbaugh ‘Look, if you want to be a receptacle for male semen and not pay a price, I’m your guy.'” Given Limbaugh’s record for assholery, the most shocking thing about his comment is that he needed to specify that the semen was male, as though he thinks that females also carry sperm.   For more by this author: http://news.distractify.com/avericlements/signs-the-battle-for-womens-rights-is-not-nearly-over-2/



{November 2, 2014}   A Culture of Misogyny

College Fraternity accused of creating Culture of Misogyny: http://www.cnn.com/2014/10/31/justice/lawsuit-phi-kappa-tau-fraternity/index.html?hpt=hp_t4

HERE IS A MAN BLOGGING ABOUT THE CULTURE MISOGYNY AFTER THE MAY 2014 CA REVENGE ON WOMEN SHOOTING (http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/may/24/elliot-rodgers-california-shooting-mental-health-misogyny)  …I have known nerdy male stalkers, and, yes, nerdy male rapists. I’ve known situations where I knew something was going on but didn’t say anything—because I didn’t want to stick my neck out, because some vile part of me thought that this kind of thing was “normal,” because, in other words, I was a coward and I had the privilege of ignoring the problem…other people’s bodies and other people’s love are not something that can be taken nor even something that can be earned—they can be given freely, by choice, or not.  http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/05/27/your-princess-is-in-another-castle-misogyny-entitlement-and-nerds.html

The NUS defines lad culture as a group or “pack” mentality expressed in activities such as sport and heavy alcohol consumption, and in “banter” which is “often sexist, misogynist, and homophobic”.   http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2014/oct/07/lad-culture-women-rape-sexual-harassment-abuse-laddish



{October 30, 2014}   Attention, men: stop the catcalls

Click below to take a walk through NY with a woman in plain black slacks and black crew t and walk around with a camera recording the harassment a woman  endures just out for a walk… catcalls to me are like a mating call…its an uninvited predatory act….as though a girl / woman is a piece of meat on display. I know the uneasy feel that goes off inside me when I hear them…alarm.  http://www.cnn.com/2014/10/29/opinion/robbins-street-harassment/index.html?hpt=hp_t3

This is an example of our US culture of rape where no laws exist to protect woman from this (catcalls) form of aggressive predatorily harassment. Instead, it is common and consider by many men a male right of passage. There’s no dignity in it:



Sexual Predator Warning Signs

Dr. Frank Lawlis, chairman of the Dr. Phil Advisory Board and Dr. Phil’s mentor, offers some insight into the development of a sexual predator:

“The typical sexual predator is very immature in his or her understanding of intimacy. It is like they really want closeness, but they lack the skills to feel satisfaction and trust. These feelings of frustration erupt into anger many times, and it is in this stage that the individual can become dangerous. Their acts are desperate. They try to find intimacy and caring for themselves, but when they can’t find it in appropriate ways, they demand it or find a child who has little resistance,” says Dr. Lawlis. “It is common to find parents of sexual predators also weak in skills of affection. Consequently, they cannot train or offer to meet these needs for their child. And then the cycle continues.”

There are some common characteristics of sexual predators. If you’re worried your teen may be a sexual predator, look for these warning signs:

Refusal to take responsibility for actions and blames others or circumstances for failures
A sense of entitlement
Low self-esteem
Need for power and control
Lack of empathy
Inability to form intimate relationships with adults
History of abuse
Troubled childhood
Deviant sexual behavior and attitudes

From the book, Protecting Your Children from Sexual Predators, by Dr. Leigh M. Baker.

Other Tips on Spotting a Sexual Predator:
Often offend where they won’t get caught — when they have misdirected people’s attention
Often married or in relationships
Offend when the victim is handy
Not always strangers, often family members, family friends and neighbors
Most attracted to adults
Good manipulators (seduction is an integral part)
Overly self-indulgent
Arrogant
Sexualize, objectify women
Users of various kinds of pornography
Typically known as rationalizers, intellectualizers, justifiers
Great helpers — are there to lend a helping hand — prey on people in need, when they can insinuate themselves in your life
Use stressful and vulnerable situations to get in — they find a need they can fill and they use that to get next to the victim
Common Attributes of Child Molesters:
— from A Profile of the Child Molester
Pedophiles are notoriously friendly, nice, kind, engaging and likeable.
Pedophiles target their victims, often insinuating themselves into that child’s life through their family, school, house of worship, sports, and hobbies.
Pedophiles are professional con artists and are experts at getting children and families to trust them.
Pedophiles will smile at you, look you right in the eye and make you believe they are trustworthy.
Dr. Phil reminds parents they must watch everyone in their child’s life!

Sexual Predator Warning Signs

Dr. Frank Lawlis, chairman of the Dr. Phil Advisory Board and Dr. Phil’s mentor, offers some insight into the development of a sexual predator:

“The typical sexual predator is very immature in his or her understanding of intimacy. It is like they really want closeness, but they lack the skills to feel satisfaction and trust. These feelings of frustration erupt into anger many times, and it is in this stage that the individual can become dangerous. Their acts are desperate. They try to find intimacy and caring for themselves, but when they can’t find it in appropriate ways, they demand it or find a child who has little resistance,” says Dr. Lawlis. “It is common to find parents of sexual predators also weak in skills of affection. Consequently, they cannot train or offer to meet these needs for their child. And then the cycle continues.”

There are some common characteristics of sexual predators. If you’re worried your teen may be a sexual predator, look for these warning signs:

Refusal to take responsibility for actions and blames others or circumstances for failures
A sense of entitlement
Low self-esteem
Need for power and control
Lack of empathy
Inability to form intimate relationships with adults
History of abuse
Troubled childhood
Deviant sexual behavior and attitudes

From the book, Protecting Your Children from Sexual Predators, by Dr. Leigh M. Baker.

Other Tips on Spotting a Sexual Predator:
Often offend where they won’t get caught — when they have misdirected people’s attention
Often married or in relationships
Offend when the victim is handy
Not always strangers, often family members, family friends and neighbors
Most attracted to adults
Good manipulators (seduction is an integral part)
Overly self-indulgent
Arrogant
Sexualize, objectify women
Users of various kinds of pornography
Typically known as rationalizers, intellectualizers, justifiers
Great helpers — are there to lend a helping hand — prey on people in need, when they can insinuate themselves in your life
Use stressful and vulnerable situations to get in — they find a need they can fill and they use that to get next to the victim
Common Attributes of Child Molesters:
— from A Profile of the Child Molester
Pedophiles are notoriously friendly, nice, kind, engaging and likeable.
Pedophiles target their victims, often insinuating themselves into that child’s life through their family, school, house of worship, sports, and hobbies.
Pedophiles are professional con artists and are experts at getting children and families to trust them.
Pedophiles will smile at you, look you right in the eye and make you believe they are trustworthy.
Dr. Phil reminds parents they must watch everyone in their child’s life!

PROFILE OF ONLINE PREDATOR ~ IT CAN BE ALMOST ANYBODY YOU KNOW AND MOST OFTEN IS A WELL RESPECTED MEMBER OF THE COMMUNITY…THEY CAME FROM ALL WALKS OF LIFE…PREDATORS COME FROM ALL RACES, AGES AND SOCIO-ECONOMIC SITUATIONS…: http://www.apa.org/pubs/journals/releases/amp-632111.pdf

STAY AWARE.



PERMISSION TO DREAM: http://www.justyellfire.com/movie.php?video=JYF_Permission-to-Dream#content
Dream Your Best You…

Antidotes ~
pd id: Personal Drink Identification Device, can detect whether your drink has been drugged in just a few seconds. Founder David Wilson and his Toronto-based team are crowdfunding on Indiegogo…See this video on pd id: http://www.elle.com/news/lifestyle/pd-id-device-detects-date-rape-drug

and see: http://www.bbc.com/capital/specials/protection-now/spotted/partygoers-engage-new-high-tech-device-against-spiked-drinks_a-1-151.html

Jada Pinkett speaks out after her niece is drugged with date rape drug: http://www.eonline.com/news/561981/jada-pinkett-smith-speaks-out-against-date-rape-and-sexual-assault-after-her-niece-was-drugged

Democracy Now & enlisted women ages 18 to 21 THE INVISIBLE WAR ~ The Epidemic of Rape in the US Military Watch Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IAKiCdD0hkE, Estimated 70 sexual assaults a day in the military (26,000 sexual assaults in 2012): watch Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7jtt-NPBnN0

THE INVISIBLE WAR: Watch in full https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b8i_WoaIyM4

DON’T BE SILENT ABOUT RAPE ~ SPEAK YOUR TRUTH: ww.giftfromwithin.org/pdf/acquaintance_rape.pdf

Be empowered learn self-defense and…JUST YELL FIRE! (GIVES ME GOOSE BUMPS) WE NEED TO OPEN OUR THROAT CHAKRA AND JUST YELL “FIRE!” – WATCH THE VIDEO: ww.giftfromwithin.org/pdf/acquaintance_rape.pdf

BE ALL YOU CAN BE
Step out into the cool night air. Look at the stars. See how they shine. Know that is is okay for you to shine, too.
Who told you you had to hold back? Who told you your gifts, your talents, your beauty, [your sexuality]–your natural, beautiful, loving, delightful self–was wrong? Who told you not to be all you could be? Maybe, as some suggest, we’ve gotten too comfortable focusing on our flaws, our errors, our dark side. Perhaps its not our dark side we fear. Perhaps, we’re really afraid of our gifts, our brilliance, our light.
Now is a time of light. It’s time for us to shine. We’ve worked hard for ourselves, death with our issues, gone back to the past. We’ve learned our lessons well. The reasons to hold back and hide away are no longer there. Enjoy the fruits of your labors.
Be all you can be, and enjoy being that. Don’t hold back. Use your gifts with joy. Use your talen=ts. Let your light shine for all the world to see. Melody Beattie

LOOK AT THE STARS…LOOK HOW THEY SHINE FOR YOU AND EVERYTHING YOU DO…https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1MwjX4dG72s

Namaste



let’s not loose site of the real issue…the conscious decision to act predatorily…

I think in a prior post I may have said that only men rape and that may be true BUT THE MAJORITY OF MEN DO NOT RAPE… http://wagingnonviolence.org/feature/rape-rape-culture-problem-patriarchy/

and here’s what RAINN reports about the majority:

Men who do not rape but would be willing to rape if they were sure they would not be punished.
Men who do not rape but will not intervene when another man rapes.
Men who do not rape but buy sex with women who have been, or likely will be, raped in the context of being prostituted.
Men who do not rape but will watch films of women in situations that depict rape or rape-like acts.
Men who do not rape but find the idea of rape sexually arousing.
Men who do not rape but whose sexual arousal depends on feeling dominant and having power over a woman.
Men who do not rape but routinely masturbate to pornography in which women are presented as objectified bodies whose primary, or only, function is to provide sexual pleasure for men.
Those men are not rapists. But is that fact — that the men in these categories are not, in legal terms, guilty of rape — comforting? Are we advancing the cause of ending men’s violence against women by focusing only on the acts legally defined as rape— rape as an act of “forcible penetration” http://wagingnonviolence.org/feature/rape-rape-culture-problem-patriarchy/

— the research establishes that between 10.6 percent and 16.1 percent of American women have been raped. That means somewhere between 12 million and 18 million women in this country today live as rape victim-survivors, if we use a narrow definition of the crime.

THAT FACT IS STAGGERING> My beloved daughter, in whose memory I blog, was the victim of a predatory date rape drug (GHB)poisoning that induced her death within hours. The men who were responsible went free, un-prosecuted! My personal history includes being molested at age 5, 9, and 13, and raped at 16 and at 19 aided by a date rape drug. When I was 5 I didn’t tell anyone until I was almost 30 but even then the truth was ill received. I did not report the rapes. ..A rape culture doesn’t command men to rape, but it does make rape inviting, and it reduces the likelihood rapists will be identified, arrested, prosecuted, convicted and punished. http://wagingnonviolence.org/feature/rape-rape-culture-problem-patriarchy/

Why should we fear talking about the socialization process by which boys and men are trained to see themselves as powerful over women and to see women as sexual objects? THIS IS THE CONVERSATION I KEEP ASKING FOR. I’M NOT AFRAID TO ASK BECAUSE LADIES WE HAVE ONE CHANCE TO CHANGE HOW MEN PERCEIVE WOMEN AND IT BEGINS WHEN THE MAN IS A BABY AND THEN A BOY THAT IS WHEN HE IS LEARNING ABOUT RELATIONS<
HIPS…ABOUT LOVE AND HONOR..I SPEAK FROM THE EXPERIENCE OF MY OWN SON WHO BURIED A SISTER AND HAS BEEN RAISED BY A SINGLE MOTHER…HE LOVES AND HONORS WOMEN…MY SON IS CHIVALROUS…HE IS KIND AND CARING ABOUT WOMEN….SO I KNOW IT'S POSSIBLE. RAISE BOYS WHO LOVE AND HONOR WOMEN.



et cetera