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{June 3, 2016}   Katie Koestner

Bringing her story of date rape to the world, Katie Koestner (http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-36434191), kept her story alive. We know it can happen to any girl or woman. It can happen if your female. Thank you Katie Koestler for awareness you have provided by telling your story until people listened. Thank you. I know there are many of you out there that have a story too. Let us hear your voice. Join the conversation.

Please, help keep my daughter, Skylar’s story alive. Its a story about how a young 22 year old girl can innocently or unknowingly open doors and hearts to predators in their midst. I have written a novel, called Sophie’s Shadow. (previously written as SHADOWDANCE by Cat Lynn Boyle as of 2016 03 20by Cat Lynn Boyle as of 2016 03 20) It tells my daughter’s story. It’s about what happened to her one dawn when her boyfriend invited her after hours to his studio. Seven hours laters, she died in his arms after ingesting a drink laced with the date rape drug, GHB. Skylar’s case is a cold case, and, what her case needs is the attention Katie Koestler is able to incite around her experience with date rape. Katie Koestner is the hero, I’m not. If any of you reading this blog have ideas about how to build momentum around Skylar’s story, please reply with your ideas. And, Katie, if you read my blog, I’d really enjoy hearing more of your story. Thank you for following.

 

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As many of you, who have followed my blog in the past, know, I’ve been distracted by the intensive work of editing a novel, Shadow Dance, which is written in memory of my beloved daughter, who died as a result of a GHB poisoning, and, for whom this site is in memoriam. I am so thrilled to inform you that the work of editing is paying off. Shadow Dance has received literary mention, by the William Faulkner Literary Awards for 2015 Best Novel Honorable Mention!

It will not be long before Shadow Dance will be available in bookstores, as well as if you place a request here for a free copy once published in gratitude for following and supporting raising awareness of violence against women.

WFLA 2015 Best Novel Honorable Mention Shadow Dance Cat Lynn Boyle

FOLLOW HERE AND CLICK ON “SHADOW DANCE” to read a copy.

http://williamfaulknerliterarycompetition.com/2015-winners/



Husband’s fantasy…let see..buy GHB and hire a predator to sexually assault his wife: http://wtvr.com/2015/02/09/police-husband-purchased-ghb-to-drug-sexually-assault-wife/  It must be the water.

I watch a program the other night called the Pyramid Code that offered proofs that experts from all the sciences are meeting to attempt to re-date history as much has been tossed, suppressed, plundered, destroyed, or discovered much later dissolving older theories while new ones emerged (Newton v. Einstein.) Ever hear your expectations affect the outcome of your experiment. Nevertheless, these scientist claimed mankind is just coming out of its’ lowest spiritual connection since the Golden Age 40,000 years ago, which these experts report is a more accurate dating of the earliest matriarchal Egyptian dynasties. Point being the shift hasn’t happened yet our society is pretty depraved. Don’t take my word, listen to the media, the music, the cable, the advertisements, your friends, co-workers, by standers…It doesn’t matter it’s everywhere. Look around there’re a lot of deprave people who look at women like prey or objects and can easily buy GHB and wait until you’re most vulnerable.

Wake up. Look around. Know the landscape. Predators are waiting, watching, Let’s hope, the whole planet wakes up and raises their awareness of the need to learns to live in peace and love and respect all life. If you have a husband, let’s hope he’s got your back, otherwise he’s not worth it like the guy in the video above. What’s he thinking? Any guesses? Be aware take self-defense classes.

Awareness is key. You are the miracle you seek.



I too have been drugged and raped, and, know, what it is and this woman’s story is soooo believable: http://www.cnn.com/2014/12/05/showbiz/bill-cosby-playboy-accusations/index.html?hpt=ju_c1

and then, there’s the woman who claims Cosby raped her when she was 15:  http://perezhilton.com/2014-12-05-bill-cosby-accuser-file-police-report-lapd-investigation#.VIOBg75N3zI.

OMG and this guy masquerades as ta decent human being, a good ol’ guy. It makes me sick.

What’s your story? What do you have to say?

These women were raped at a time in history when women were taught to hide the fact they’d been raped…they didn’t talk about it…it was shameful. When I told my mother in the late 60s my Dad’s work associate molested me, she said we weren’t ever to talk about it again. These women had these experiences in the 60s at the Playboy Mansion. Not, they raise their voices and cry out against the injustice they endured and, it echoes the systemic violence against women prevalent throughout the world, and includes the current trend of objectification of women for commercial ends or gains.

Well, let’s just shine the light right there and say no more shame no more blame. For where there is smoke there is likely fire. We need solutions. What’s yours?????????? Always open your heart to your sisters.



Weigh in,..

Do you think girls dress in a way that invites trouble? http://www.cnn.com/2014/10/06/opinion/costello-provocative-clothes-dont-cause-rape/?cid=ob_articlesidebarall&iref=obinsite

Imagine this scenario: A young man is talking with his father about sexual assault. How might that conversation go in a world where you believed girls could provoke boys into attacking them simply by being scantily dressed?
Son: “Dad, you were right. I couldn’t control myself. She looked so…sexy. I knew she wanted it.”

Father: “It’s okay, son. It’s evolution. Men have been tempted since caveman days. She should have covered up. How short was her skirt?”

I’m praying most fathers would never dream of raising a son this way.
I accept the fact that men are visual. Mike Matthews puts it like this in an article on catholiceducation.org “….The fact is, it doesn’t take much visual stimulus at all for guys to become sexually aroused. The sight of the female body, even just a little bit and even if it’s a complete stranger, can trigger sexual thoughts instantly. This might be difficult for women to understand, but it’s absolutely true…”   http://www.cnn.com/2014/10/06/opinion/costello-provocative-clothes-dont-cause-rape/?cid=ob_articlesidebarall&iref=obinsite

Linda Fairstein, who prosecuted sex crimes for 30 years in New York City says, “Sexual assault is the only crime in the book, literally, where the offender repeatedly blames the victim. I’ve … had men who attacked 5-year-old girls who’ve said, ‘she climbed on my lap and she was very sexy and I thought she was inviting me to touch her.'”  http://www.cnn.com/2014/10/06/opinion/costello-provocative-clothes-dont-cause-rape/?cid=ob_articlesidebarall&iref=obinsite

According to the U.S. Department of Justice, 1 in 4 rapes take place in the victim’s home. Two in 10 rapes take place at the home of a friend, neighbor or relative. And almost two-thirds of all rapes are committed by someone the victim already knows. Don’t think a short skirt provoked these men to rape.  http://www.cnn.com/2014/10/06/opinion/costello-provocative-clothes-dont-cause-rape/?cid=ob_articlesidebarall&iref=obinsite

My daughter was 22 when she died at her boyfriend’s music studio after someone spiked her drink with GHB. She had gone to the studio alone and after hours by late night invitation of the boyfriend/rapper. She told her roommate she was going to get the boyfriend and return. She lit a candle and left. No one saw her alive again.

Her boyfriend drove my daughter to a hospital dead on arrival. She had been dead several hours before he took her to the hospital. He never called 911 when she fell to the floor after unknowingly ingesting GHB instead he decided to let her sleep it off. He claimed he didn’t know how she came in contact with GHB and he and the band suggested in their statements someone spiked her drink at the dance club before she arrived.

Only problem with their collaborative story is she walked 13 blocks from the club to the boyfriend’s studio, which is physically impossible given the amount of GHB still in her body post-mortum. The boyfriend/band also claim in their statements to police that my daughter had been at the studio approximately 40 to 50 minutes before she collapsed in seizures. We now know depending on stomach contents one can react to GHB in 10 to 15 minutes following ingestion, depending on the stomach content and, presence of alcohol. Her’s stomach was near empty; she’d had two glasses of wine over several hours. It’s clear from these two facts alone there existed reasonable cause for the D.A. to take the case, because the expert’s report challenged the boyfriend/band’s version of the facts. The investigating police officer didn’t believe the boyfriend’s/band’s story because the band manager was known the police said for drug dealing and possibly laundering money. The case went from the police directly to the homicide division.

But, today, my daughter”s case remains a cold case. The homicide detective did little to investigate the case and, in my opinion, was a fan of the rapper/ band. He ignored the GHB expert report who reviewed the records and concluded the GHB had to have been ingested at the studio. This one report written in April 2000 provided cause to prosecute because the boyfriend/band had all testified they were not the source of the drug but the expert, Dr. Debroah Zvosec’s report indicated otherwise. The homicide detective accepted the boyfriend and band’s statements which claimed my daughter came to their studio uninvited and drunk, and, often, showed up at parties uninvited and on drugs. THE DETECTIVE BLAMED THE VICTIM. He immediately made it clear he believed my daughter voluntarily took GHB and he tried to discredit my daughter. Yet, the medical personnel, police, friends of my daughter all testified, otherwise. They boyfriend/band lied according to the people who walked home from the club with my daughter and saw her minutes before she walked the final block alone to the studio. These witnesses were never questioned by the homicide detective. Less than 24 hrs. after the boyfriend/rapper took my daughter’s dead body to a hospital, he left town. When I tracked him down, he confessed, he and the band had been messed up for days on various drugs which he said caused him to make a bad judgment call in not calling 911 when my daughter collapsed and went into a coma. The boyfriend and his band have been free men and were never prosecuted for their crime of causing the death of a WOMAN/GIRL!  I hope to soon complete and post her for my readers, Shadow Dance, a fictionalized version of my daughter’s story. 

Our bodies are the garden of our soul. We should not have to defend ourselves against the onslaught of predators who act like friends who care and value our lives but in reality only seek two things: vulnerability and opportunity…then, they strike. Raise your awareness to include your sisters, who may be out alone and vulnerable, please befriend them and invite them to join your table, group or network of friends.  Remember, You are more likely to survive sexual assault if you fight back then if you submit. Please take up a Self-defense class in your neighborhood!



When I first read the police had a person of interest in the Hannah Graham case, there followed a sense of relief. But as the days ticked by and the POI went to the police without a lawyer, the police searched his apartment, and his car, and the investigation went on, the police never said what evidence they had to make the arrest. Here is what is known about the suspect last seen with Hannah: http://sync.democraticunderground.com/10025585938

Where is Hannah? Possibly anywhere between Charlottesville and Texas: http://www.wsls.com/story/26628837/charlottesville-police-chief-longo-keep-the-focus-on-finding-hannah

This morning I read an article that mentions two other women and a man who were assaulted in the same vicinity as Hannah Graham within a 48-hour timeframe of Hannah’s disappearance. The predator is reported to be a white male.

There may be more to this story than police have discovered as one of the victims is reported found near a railroad track “…unconscious—sleeping, or incapacitated…” which may well describe someone recovering from a date rape drug poisoning. The police didn’t indicate what the victim may have told them about the assault. http://www.c-ville.com/weekend-violence-wertland-area-rocked-alleged-assaults-days-around-hannah-grahams-disappearance/#.VCg1qUtN1uY Universities tend to be breeding grounds for predators.

IF YOU KNOW ANYTHING REGARDING HANNAH GRAHAM’S DISAPPEARANCE CONTACT THE CHARLOTTESVILLE POLICE: http://www.c-ville.com/arrest-police-double-search-hannah-graham/#.VCg8YUtN1uY

The reward for information leading to Hannah Graham has risen to $100,000. Anyone with any information that may be pertinent to the case should call the tip line at 295-3851 or visit a new tip website for the case at cpdtips@charlottesville.org.

STAY AWARE AND MAKE SELF-DEFENSE YOUR PRIORITY!



PERMISSION TO DREAM: http://www.justyellfire.com/movie.php?video=JYF_Permission-to-Dream#content
Dream Your Best You…

Antidotes ~
pd id: Personal Drink Identification Device, can detect whether your drink has been drugged in just a few seconds. Founder David Wilson and his Toronto-based team are crowdfunding on Indiegogo…See this video on pd id: http://www.elle.com/news/lifestyle/pd-id-device-detects-date-rape-drug

and see: http://www.bbc.com/capital/specials/protection-now/spotted/partygoers-engage-new-high-tech-device-against-spiked-drinks_a-1-151.html

Jada Pinkett speaks out after her niece is drugged with date rape drug: http://www.eonline.com/news/561981/jada-pinkett-smith-speaks-out-against-date-rape-and-sexual-assault-after-her-niece-was-drugged

Democracy Now & enlisted women ages 18 to 21 THE INVISIBLE WAR ~ The Epidemic of Rape in the US Military Watch Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IAKiCdD0hkE, Estimated 70 sexual assaults a day in the military (26,000 sexual assaults in 2012): watch Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7jtt-NPBnN0

THE INVISIBLE WAR: Watch in full https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b8i_WoaIyM4

DON’T BE SILENT ABOUT RAPE ~ SPEAK YOUR TRUTH: ww.giftfromwithin.org/pdf/acquaintance_rape.pdf

Be empowered learn self-defense and…JUST YELL FIRE! (GIVES ME GOOSE BUMPS) WE NEED TO OPEN OUR THROAT CHAKRA AND JUST YELL “FIRE!” – WATCH THE VIDEO: ww.giftfromwithin.org/pdf/acquaintance_rape.pdf

BE ALL YOU CAN BE
Step out into the cool night air. Look at the stars. See how they shine. Know that is is okay for you to shine, too.
Who told you you had to hold back? Who told you your gifts, your talents, your beauty, [your sexuality]–your natural, beautiful, loving, delightful self–was wrong? Who told you not to be all you could be? Maybe, as some suggest, we’ve gotten too comfortable focusing on our flaws, our errors, our dark side. Perhaps its not our dark side we fear. Perhaps, we’re really afraid of our gifts, our brilliance, our light.
Now is a time of light. It’s time for us to shine. We’ve worked hard for ourselves, death with our issues, gone back to the past. We’ve learned our lessons well. The reasons to hold back and hide away are no longer there. Enjoy the fruits of your labors.
Be all you can be, and enjoy being that. Don’t hold back. Use your gifts with joy. Use your talen=ts. Let your light shine for all the world to see. Melody Beattie

LOOK AT THE STARS…LOOK HOW THEY SHINE FOR YOU AND EVERYTHING YOU DO…https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1MwjX4dG72s

Namaste



let’s not loose site of the real issue…the conscious decision to act predatorily…

I think in a prior post I may have said that only men rape and that may be true BUT THE MAJORITY OF MEN DO NOT RAPE… http://wagingnonviolence.org/feature/rape-rape-culture-problem-patriarchy/

and here’s what RAINN reports about the majority:

Men who do not rape but would be willing to rape if they were sure they would not be punished.
Men who do not rape but will not intervene when another man rapes.
Men who do not rape but buy sex with women who have been, or likely will be, raped in the context of being prostituted.
Men who do not rape but will watch films of women in situations that depict rape or rape-like acts.
Men who do not rape but find the idea of rape sexually arousing.
Men who do not rape but whose sexual arousal depends on feeling dominant and having power over a woman.
Men who do not rape but routinely masturbate to pornography in which women are presented as objectified bodies whose primary, or only, function is to provide sexual pleasure for men.
Those men are not rapists. But is that fact — that the men in these categories are not, in legal terms, guilty of rape — comforting? Are we advancing the cause of ending men’s violence against women by focusing only on the acts legally defined as rape— rape as an act of “forcible penetration” http://wagingnonviolence.org/feature/rape-rape-culture-problem-patriarchy/

— the research establishes that between 10.6 percent and 16.1 percent of American women have been raped. That means somewhere between 12 million and 18 million women in this country today live as rape victim-survivors, if we use a narrow definition of the crime.

THAT FACT IS STAGGERING> My beloved daughter, in whose memory I blog, was the victim of a predatory date rape drug (GHB)poisoning that induced her death within hours. The men who were responsible went free, un-prosecuted! My personal history includes being molested at age 5, 9, and 13, and raped at 16 and at 19 aided by a date rape drug. When I was 5 I didn’t tell anyone until I was almost 30 but even then the truth was ill received. I did not report the rapes. ..A rape culture doesn’t command men to rape, but it does make rape inviting, and it reduces the likelihood rapists will be identified, arrested, prosecuted, convicted and punished. http://wagingnonviolence.org/feature/rape-rape-culture-problem-patriarchy/

Why should we fear talking about the socialization process by which boys and men are trained to see themselves as powerful over women and to see women as sexual objects? THIS IS THE CONVERSATION I KEEP ASKING FOR. I’M NOT AFRAID TO ASK BECAUSE LADIES WE HAVE ONE CHANCE TO CHANGE HOW MEN PERCEIVE WOMEN AND IT BEGINS WHEN THE MAN IS A BABY AND THEN A BOY THAT IS WHEN HE IS LEARNING ABOUT RELATIONS<
HIPS…ABOUT LOVE AND HONOR..I SPEAK FROM THE EXPERIENCE OF MY OWN SON WHO BURIED A SISTER AND HAS BEEN RAISED BY A SINGLE MOTHER…HE LOVES AND HONORS WOMEN…MY SON IS CHIVALROUS…HE IS KIND AND CARING ABOUT WOMEN….SO I KNOW IT'S POSSIBLE. RAISE BOYS WHO LOVE AND HONOR WOMEN.



MEET NFL DARREN SHARPER SERIAL DATE RAPE PREDATOR USING DATE RAPE DRUGS TO DRUG VICTIMS IN MULTIPLE JURISDICTIONS: http://bleacherreport.com/articles/2013700-who-is-darren-sharper-date-rape-allegations-raise-serious-questions

FORBES – The Ten Most Dangerous U.S. Cities for Women: http://www.forbes.com/sites/meghancasserly/2012/04/26/most-dangerous-us-cities-women-anchorage-fairbanks-flint/

GENDER BASED VIOLENCE: Violence against women and girls is one of the most disturbing aspects of living in a culture that promotes a hierarchy of power in human relationships according to class, race, and gender, among other divisions. In the United States, a woman is more likely to be assaulted, injured, raped, or murdered by a male partner than by any other type of attacker. According to the National Woman Abuse Prevention Project, approximately 3 to 4 million women are beaten each year and more than 1,000 women-an estimated 4 per day-are murdered by their husbands or partners…it is estimated that a woman is battered every 15 seconds…Sexual assault is considered to be the fastest growing yet least reported crime. According to statistics, a rape is committed every 6 minutes. …The phrase “a man’s home is his castle” sends a message that such violence is a private matter. http://www2.edc.org/WomensEquity/pubs/digests/digest-gbviolence.html

PRESIDENT OBAMA’S PLEAS TO MEN TO STOP VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN – CHANGING A CULTURE OF RAPE: The president said a priority was to find ways to encourage more men to intervene when they see an attack or to report assaults. “I want every young man in America to feel some strong peer pressure in terms of how they are supposed to behave and treat women,” Mr. Obama said. “Men have to take more responsibility; men have to intervene,” he added. “The measure of manhood is willingness to speak up and speak out, and begin to change the culture.”

COLLEGE AGED WOMEN ARE THE HIGHEST RISK GROUP FOR DATE RAPE BY DRUGS OR ACOHOL: RAINN recommends (TO PRESIDENT OBAMA’S TASK FORCE) a three-tiered approach when it comes to preventing sexual violence on college campuses. A prevention campaign should include the following elements:
1. Bystander intervention education: empowering community members to act in response to acts of sexual violence.
2. Risk-reduction messaging: empowering members of the community to take steps to increase their personal safety.
3. General education to promote understanding of the law, particularly as it relates to the ability to consent. https://rainn.org/images/03-2014/WH-Task-Force-RAINN-Recommendations.pdf

What does all this mean? Well, one, if you’re female your have a one in four chance of being assaulted in your lifetime. But, if your are a college lady you also have a one in four chance of being raped, http://listen.nycagainstrape.org/learn.html, and it’s likely to be assisted by date rape drugs and alcohol. But rape and violence against women followed a fundamental shift in society from a matriarchal culture to a patriarchal society supported by a bible that designates woman the property of man lesser by alleged acts of Eve so, to say rape is a cultural phenomena diminishes the fact that violence against women is a global systemic fact of life. It will require a shift in consciousness for some men to eradicate predatorily instincts toward women and toward children. These are ancient issues acerbated by the prolific availability of drugs and alcohol available to men to subdue unsuspecting women and children. These predators are men. Only men perpetrate crimes and violence against women that spans the globe. The president clearly understands that raising the consciousness of men to act from their inherent goodness and align men in nobler roles towards women. It is but a small step for women but the journey begins with the first step. It’s a beginning. But it’s a systemic issue that must be eradicated at its root like slavery and other forms of prejudice and oppression. Talk about oppressive, look to other women throughout the third world and

other developing countries where violence against women is also engrained culturally as throughout the world. It is men who rape and prey on women.

It is a male issue in a world dominated by men. As women in America we can negotiate our rights through the legislative process and believe we are making gains. But, it seems we are negotiating what is ours as human beings regardless of gender. We have a right to be free from fear of our own friends, or favorite cousin, or uncle or father, or brother, or your dad’s business partner. They all might be a potential predator.

As women today in the present moment we must remain vigilant and always go out with a BFF and never leave drinks unattended, or take one from a stranger. And, above all we can strive to raise our sons to love and honor and respect women and all human beings and raise awareness of a woman’s right as a human being to live free from predatorily threats of random and premeditated acts of violence.



{July 7, 2014}   Round Up The Usual Suspects

How do pharmacutical companies get permitted to manufacturer GHB derivative products marked by other names via physician promotions? Doctors Peddling GHB derivative products…federal crimes arising from his participation in a nationwide scheme to unlawfully promote the medication Xyrem, also known as sodium oxybate and gamma-hydroxybutyrate (“GHB”), to prescribing physicians for non-approved medical purposes…

Why are recipes like this one for making GHB prolific online? http://www.angelfire.com/planet/organicchemistry/Index/page%203%20chemical%20drugs/page%203.3.3.htm

Why is GHB continuously manufacture red and sold on black market? Because there is a perpetual demand. A hole or a vacancy that people try to to fill when it would dissolve on its own…

Its staggering when you think about the fact that the illegal drug market in the United States is one of the most profitable in the world.
http://www.p olicyalmanac.org/crime/archive/drug_trafficking.shtml

It’s the law…ignored by many: http://www.justice.gov/usao/eousa/foia_reading_room/usam/title4/civ00016.ht

Fact is no one is going to help you but you can help yourself by raising your GHB AWARENESS.

Addicted to GHB? Get Help: http://www.addiction411.com/ghb/

Then there is this whole issue of GHB Dependancy: http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=5&ved=0CEYQFjAE&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.researchgate.net%2Fpublication%2F256424256_GHB_GBL_and_14-BD_Addiction%2Ffile%2F9c960529b4eabe4c2d.pdf&ei=h_W6U-CqGcqa8QGzyYHADQ&usg=AFQjCNGkX9Pgj0Y6UO8LhDtfW8aKGOUchg&sig2=GA3jTm5SNddRw7SR9-0CNg

Think you know enough about GHB to try it? Then, keep reading and follow this link: http://www.who.int/medicines/areas/quality_safety/5GHBPreReview.pdf



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