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Raised on Disney’s Beauty and The Beast, I totally bought into the princess waiting patiently for the prince to arrive. Girls are taught from the beginning to be nice and patient with an abusive partner (or parent etc. ) like the Beast and as long as you remain so, he’ll transform into a Prince. This was totally the pattern in my life.

Growing up seemed a drill for marriage. My parents harassed me to sit straight, cross your legs,  and to be hyper-vigent about what position my legs took when I sat. Sexuality was suppressed. But, ironically, my parents left me in harm’s way. When I was 5 my father’s drunk best friend molested me in the backseat of my father’s car, while my father and mother were in the front seat oblivious to where his best friends hands reached. I never told my dad until I was 30 yrs. old, and he walked away from me disgusted not by what happened but by what I confided. When I turned 9, my father eerily watched me in secret as I drew female body parts on a doll. He then snuck up behind me grabbed the doll tossing it and took me to my room where he took off his belt and beat me. I felt such shame begging for forgiveness over acknowledging my own sexuality. Soon after, also, when around 9, I was molested by a gang of neighborhood boys. Later, my parents kept screaming did he put his “thing” in you, over and over. I didn’t understand what “thing” meant but realized it was something more horrible the touching genitals. When I was 13 my father’s business partner, to whom my parents volunteered me as a babysitter, molested me before driving me home and giving me more money than I earned babysitting. When I confessed to my mother she said I was never to tell my dad or anyone else, or bring shame on the family. When this man, as well as my father’s best friend who had molested me, came to our house I had to pretend nothing had happened. Between 15-16 my father refused to allow me to date even though by 16, I was a senior in high school. To my dad, boys were threatening and he policed me and accused me falsely of secretly meeting boys but by then I lost interest in dating boy preferring my girlfriends. My parents sent messages to me constantly indicating female sexuality was threatening, needed to be hidden, not discussed, or suppressed otherwise it brought harm and shame. Wow, did my sexuality really stand a healthy chance?

My trajectory to becoming a woman arched between 1964 and 1972, and, by 1970 I embraced the cultural sexual revolution  meaning sexual liberation and freedom. Married by 18 my marriage failed largely because I wasn’t that into sex with my husband. Divorced by 20 someone drugged me with a date rape drug and raped me. A second and third marriage failed, including a marriage to a Christian Grey character (Fifty Shades of Grey), who abused, raped and stalked me. Overall, I survived all the Beasts, including my father, patiently waiting for the prince but he never arrived.

Now, in the 21st century gender equality ushers women to a new threshold pushing the boundaries of the old rules to a no rules status on a par with men. Anything goes for gender equality now means…you can show your bra or your panties, or go braless, wear no panties, wear a thong while rock climbing to a photo shoot [http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2948865/Irina-Shayk-goes-topless-displays-pert-posterior-thong-bikini-racy-Sport-Illustrated-swimsuit-issue-shoot.html], pole dance in your bedroom, bondage in the marital bed, children imitating the scantily dress of porn stars…women seeking genital surgery to loo like porn stars…Inclusive of female gender equality arrives fifty shades of grey liberating sexual violence and danger, and promoting the depraved notion that women really enjoy rape, sodomy, bondage and being abused. Is consent to abuse truly sexual liberation? Leading female vocalists, reality stars and Hollywood personalities strip down and bottom up for pole dancing or to use their breast and bottoms as objects for selling products. Nothing is sacred about the female anatomy in western civilization. Feminine modesty lies hidden somewhere behind the Middle East Burqa. Porn and porn queens dominate mainstream pop culture with what once was discovered in hidden places now is available at the flip of a switch to you cable network.

But, how do these cultural evolutions impact our young girls and women today and their emerging sexual identities? For no matter the place in history, female sexuality in western culture i.e., the rape culture, is distorted, exploited and manipulated for commercial purposes. Sex and sexuality sell products, concepts and ideas.

In this article, the author contends those mixed signals about sexuality begin with Beauty and the Beast. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/megan-maas/love-hurts-what-we-learn-from-beauty-and-the-beast-twilight-and-fifty-shades-of-grey_b_6672742.html?utm_hp_ref=women&ir=Women

We are more than our bodies.

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{January 11, 2015}   You are more than a body…

If you surf the Internet, watch cable T.V., follow fashion trends, its everywhere…SEX is everywhere…

Music videos, movies, reality shows, beer ads, online porn, prostitutes in video games, sexy doctor shows. Sex is everywhere. And studies show that the more sexual content kids watch and listen to, the earlier they’re likely to have sex themselves. In fact, teens report that their main source of information about sex, dating and sexual health comes from what they see and hear in the media. http://www.greatschools.org/students/media-kids/510-sexual-behavior-teens-learn-from-media.gs

young girls are defining sexuality based on the Kardasians, Beonce, Lady Gaga, Nikki Menage, Miley Cyrus…nothing is off limits…it all comes off…porn has become mainstream…the exploitation of the sacred female body.,,,by women…a woman with a battery charger in her vagina…. Chelsey likes to bare her breast. Lady Gaga’s reveals all…she pulls the rug out on what’s safe…a dress made of red meat…the Kardasians worship the butt…  What is happening here?

Objectification of women flows out of a culture that accepts its children define sexuality largely by the media messaging, and by a culture that coexists with perpetual exploitation of women…from cradle to grave.

How do we protect young girls from the influences of the media and ensure against exploitive brainwashing.defining women by body parts and sexuality.

How do we shift cultural norms and attitudes rooted in ignorance toward women as sexual objects?

You’re more than your body…you’re an infinite field of possibility. Love to hear your voice. Let’s know what you think…or dream…



{December 23, 2014}   Portrait of Systemic Misogyny

Rant from UCSB Shooter, Elliott Rodger :

“On the day of retribution, I am going to enter the hottest sorority house at UCSB and I will slaughter every single spoiled, stuck-up, blond slut I see inside there. All those girls I’ve desired so much. They have all rejected me and looked down on me as an inferior man if I ever made a sexual advance toward them, while they throw themselves at these obnoxious brutes,” the video says. “I take great pleasure in slaughtering all of you. You will finally see that I am, in truth, the superior one, the true alpha male.”  https://www.insidehighered.com/news/2014/05/27/uc-santa-barbara-students-killed-shooting-rampage

“It’s Not All Men” is the media lament…men like Rodgers are the exception…BUT according to Michael Laser, in his article about Jiam Ghomeshi (Canadian writer/musician & CBC radio host –Serial Women Abuser… http://globalnews.ca/news/1647091/timeline-sex-assault-allegations-arise-after-cbc-fires-jian-ghomeshi/) , he says, “…that is bullshit…It is all men. We, collectively…are responsible for creating…conditions that not only facilitate Ghomeshi, but that ensure he will exist.

This is a very uncomfortable and inconvenient truth. It is all men and the society that they produced that allowed a misogynist, alleged serial abuser to rise to and feel comfortable within the halls of media and fame, despite the now known and clear indications that he was a predator all along and that many, many people could have done something about it but did not.

The people who knew did not care. He was famous. He was a celebrity in our eyes. He had very real institutional power. And so, as is increasingly clear, even though everyone on the inside seemingly either “knew” or had an inkling that he was a predator, no one did anything.

No one did anything…Despite all the protestations to the contrary, this is as old as male patriarchal power and is entirely predictable in a male supremacist “culture” of institutionalized pornography and prostitution and of male violence and sexual power as an accepted norm…The very nature of systemic oppression means…We have all, especially as men, participated in the “locker room” or trash-talking objectification of women and in the creation of a culture and context in which a Ghomeshi would feel right at home…

Given the fact that misogynist predators like Bill Cosby, R Kelly, Woody Allen and many others can continue to be famous, respected and embraced as “artists” despite the established reality of what they have done to women and girls, why would anyone be either surprised by Ghomeshi and his enablers or the fact that he got away with it for so long?”    http://feministcurrent.com/9789/it-is-all-men-our-culture-of-predatory-misogyny/

HOW SOCIETY CONTROL WOMEN via SHIT POLITiANS AND WHAT THEY HAVE TO SAY ABOUT WOMEN”S REPRODUCTIVE RIGHTS even in situations of rape and incest: http://www.politicususa.com/proof-war-women-2

It is a struggle to understand why a woman’s reproductive rights, who describe abortion as a lifestyle convenience for women is the focus of so many men dominating the U.S. Congress. Do you, as a women, get the felling you have little control over your own female body and reproductive rights? It’s as though women’s bodies are a means to an end, reproduction.

Like Tina Fey said, “If I have to listen to one more grey-faced man with a $2 haircut explain to me what rape is, I’m going to lose my mind.”

The Media’s Ideal Woman & Objectification of Women…Despite the physical, cognitive, emotional, and spiritual obstacles in the quest to achieve idealized beauty, women continue to chase it.

..To combat sexism and objectification, society must reshape its patriarchal framework and move towards more egalitarian standards.

Therefore, working towards a society where women can walk safely down the street without fear of assault, or can look in the mirror without negative mental and physical consequences begins internally and hopefully effects the external environment.  http://newyorksociologist.org/11/Berberick2011.pdf

Change your thoughts (ignore the media) about who you are as woman and watch the external world transform. What is your idea for eliminating violence against women, eliminating objectification of women, and ending politics that diminish a woman’s reproductive rights.



WHAT IS RAPE CULTURE?
In a rape culture, people are surrounded with images, language, laws, and other everyday phenomena that validate and perpetuate, rape. Rape culture includes jokes, TV, music, advertising, legal jargon, laws, words and imagery, that make violence against women and sexual coercion seem so normal that people believe that rape is inevitable. Rather than viewing the culture of rape as a problem to change, people in a rape culture think about the persistence of rape as “just the way things are.”

Rather than addressing the problem of sexual assault against women on college campuses the trend has been to blame and shame the victim. The NY Times reported on a study conducted at Bob Jones University in S.C., a Christian/Evangelican University revealed that students who reported sexual assault were asked not to report the incidents to police for fear of what it might do to the families, university, communities, etc. involved. Some students were even asked how their bodies responded to sexual abuse…http://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/12/us/bob-jones-university-sex-assault-victim-study.html?module=ArrowsNav&contentCollection=U.S.&action=keypress&region=FixedLeft&pgtype=article  “…in many cases, victims said they were assaulted as children by people within their churches, and were told by university officials that speaking out would hurt the Christian cause.”

Rolling Stone recently reported  a chilling account of a rape at UV campus and its lack of action to which UV responded with a zero-tolerance policy on sexual assault. Then Rolling Stone under criticism by the Washington Post retract its story indicating “…In the face of new information, there now appear to be discrepancies in Jackie’s account, and we have come to the conclusion that our trust in her was misplaced…” Which again, indicates a lack of credibility and places blame on the victim. Rolling Stone then corrected itself by admitting the mistake was the Rolling Stones…http://www.cnn.com/2014/12/13/us/uva-rape-turmoil/index.html?hpt=hp_t4

You get the gist of things here? The consciousness of a Rape Culture shoves the blame and shame onto the victim.

One college University of Iowa (UI) is proactively taking steps to raise awareness or social consciousness to change the culture of rape.  http://thegazette.com/subject/news/changing-the-rape-culture-20141031

Time magazine calls it, interestingly, time to end the “hysteria” over culture of rape. You’d be hysterical too if you were raped! I know I was. But Time goes on to say, “Though rape is certainly a serious problem, there’s no evidence that it’s considered a cultural norm.”  When I read anything in the media, the first thing I’m always aware of is if it’s in the media, it’s what they want Americans to believe. It has nothing to do with FACT. In fact, the major media sources are all told what is and isn’t news. http://upsettingrapeculture.com/rapeculture.php

The Time article goes on to promote that most guys don’t rape. “The vast majority of men absorb these messages and view rape as the horrific crime…”   http://time.com/30545/its-time-to-end-rape-culture-hysteria/

While true, most men don’t rape, in fact 23 percent of men rape women,  Yes, it’s about individuals who choose to disregard gender equality and rape but it’s MORE about a culture that is lethargic, or gives lip service to taking action to stop the violence against women. IT’s about a society or culture (and its organizations and institutions) that trivializes and normalize violence against women. Its about a culture or society that puts blame on victims and shames them into silence. The entire point behind a culture of rape is not in the number of men who rape BUT A CULTURE that accepts rape and violence against women as normal and responds to the tragedy of a rape culture by trivializing the outcry of 1 out of 5 women (and 1 out of 4 women on college campuses) who have reported rape and will not be silence.

“Invoking “rape culture” is simply a way of looking, academically or anecdotally, at how the ephemera around sex and sexual violence may systematically create subtle biases in behavior and perception. That’s all “rape culture” really means: that certain beliefs and norms in our society may make it easier for sexual violence to take place. …I would also add the unwitting people who perpetuate certain ideas about sex and sexual violence—”have unconsciously created an unplanned culture [of rape] that afflicts all women and men.” http://reason.com/blog/2014/11/21/a-different-way-to-look-at-rape-culture

…cavalier attitudes toward rape could contribute to a culture where the seriousness of the violation

is devalued. And while this devaluation won’t drive more people to start committing assault, it could

allow those who do to thrive… http://reason.com/blog/2014/11/21/a-different-way-to-look-at-rape-culture

It isn’t that “rape culture” directly causes rape, but that it makes people less likely to speak up if they have been assaulted, or less likely to speak out against someone they know has committed sexual assault. That it drives online threats and harassment. That it influences the way our police and the criminal justice system treat sexual assault allegations.

Raise Awareness Refuse to Be Silenced by a Culture of Rape.



When I talk about a culture of rape, I’m talking about the way a society collectively thinks, ignores, trivializes, normalizes or makes into jokes sexual assault, rape and violence against women. In America rape, assault and violence against women is reported in the news every day; pop music blast lyrics that blur the lines of consent; sexy apparel is designed for a younger and younger market; athletics, musicians, politicians, and actors who rape are supported and the victims blamed for ruining careers and life stories; we put the responsibility on women to stay safe; victims on college campuses are still not taken seriously when reporting rape; woman’s body parts are objectified and marketed to promote products as sex sells. Read this articles for examples of rape culture: http://everydayfeminism.com/2014/03/examples-of-rape-culture/

The language of a culture of rape is all around us. We’ve got a problem. And, as one author puts it, “we’re not teaching our sons not to rape.”  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/rebecca-gallagher/we-have-a-problem-here_b_5882974.html   That’s where is starts, training a new generation of boys who grow into men who love, honor and respect women. I taught my son and, feel confident, he will pass this legacy on to his son. This is what we can do as mothers living in a culture of rape, we can teach our boys to honor girls and women by not practicing aggression and violence. What about you? What can you do to help change the current U.S. Culture of Rape to a Culture of Caring Respect for all.



I too have been drugged and raped, and, know, what it is and this woman’s story is soooo believable: http://www.cnn.com/2014/12/05/showbiz/bill-cosby-playboy-accusations/index.html?hpt=ju_c1

and then, there’s the woman who claims Cosby raped her when she was 15:  http://perezhilton.com/2014-12-05-bill-cosby-accuser-file-police-report-lapd-investigation#.VIOBg75N3zI.

OMG and this guy masquerades as ta decent human being, a good ol’ guy. It makes me sick.

What’s your story? What do you have to say?

These women were raped at a time in history when women were taught to hide the fact they’d been raped…they didn’t talk about it…it was shameful. When I told my mother in the late 60s my Dad’s work associate molested me, she said we weren’t ever to talk about it again. These women had these experiences in the 60s at the Playboy Mansion. Not, they raise their voices and cry out against the injustice they endured and, it echoes the systemic violence against women prevalent throughout the world, and includes the current trend of objectification of women for commercial ends or gains.

Well, let’s just shine the light right there and say no more shame no more blame. For where there is smoke there is likely fire. We need solutions. What’s yours?????????? Always open your heart to your sisters.



Allen Jones—known for his sculptures of semi-dressed women in bondage gear, contorted to look like household objects—Jones sidesteps his abhorrent perpetuation of misogyny and attempts to justify the series by self-identifying as a feminist:   http://msmagazine.com/blog/2014/10/31/artist-who-objectifies-women-declares-himself-a-feminist/  and they call the objectification of women art?

perhaps Mr. Jones like others who want to cash in…are using the word feminism to disguise their actions under a banner of equality and are using this banner as a shield to not only deflect any criticism of their actions…

IS THE GLASS HALF EMPTY OR HALF FULL???  (one man’s perspective) FEMINISM MARGINALIZING MEN: The difference between feminists and men, is we don’t see the feminist movement as a movement for equality. Most of us see feminism as the movement that is responsible for men and boys becoming increasingly marginalised in society and eroding our legal rights….Men see feminism as a movement that places the interests of women above the interests of the other half of the population. A movement for female supremacy…The hate of men within feminism is systemic…  http://masculistfeminist.hubpages.com/hub/Why-So-Many-People-Are-Against-Feminism  WHY DOES A MOVEMENT FOR EQUALITY BETWEEN THE SEXES MEAN FEMINIST HATE MEN?  EQUALITY BETWEEN THE SEXES MEANS WHOLENESS AND UNITY…THE YING AND THE YANG..ONE IS NOT SUPERIOR OR INFERIOR TO THE OTHER BUT NECESSARY PARTS OF THE WHOLE. IT IS NOT ABOUT HATE ITS ABOUT WHOLENESS.

You can object to modern, pre-packaged “feminism” and not be crazy. http://www.dallasnews.com/opinion/sunday-commentary/20141010-heather-wilhelm-dont-buy-pre-packaged-feminism.ece

FEMINISM IS NOT ABOUT HATING MEN: It’s about wanting the same rights, chances and privileges that men have…http://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2014/jun/30/what-feminism-really-about-katharine-whitehorn

What Men Say About Why Some Men Are Still Afraid of Feminism: http://www.michaelkaufman.com/2012/why-are-some-men-still-afraid-of-feminism/

A CALL TO ALL GOOD MEN..The appalling words the world is saying about our daughters / THANK YOU Michael Kaufman  http://www.michaelkaufman.com/2013/appalling-words-the-world-is-saying-about-our-daughters/    ….We [Men / Dads] need to get our acts together and make sure we’re speaking out in our homes and communities against attitudes and jokes that belittle girls and women. That try to limit women’s control over their own bodies—like limiting access to birth control or safe abortion. That blame women for rape. That turn a blind eye against violence towards women.

[Men / Dads] need to challenge all those sexist attitudes around us. We need to take on those in our places of worship who assign women a second-class place in our religions, like saying women can’t be priests, imams, or rabbis, or that teach that men should be in charge in the home. We need to speak out to the teams we coach, the boys we teach, the men we work or play with.  http://masculistfeminist.hubpages.com/hub/Why-So-Many-People-Are-Against-FeminismTHIS IS WHAT

IN MY MIND, FEMINISM IS ABOUT, WHOLENESS AND HEALING. ITS ABOUT HEALING THE DIVISIONS BETWEEN THE SEXES NOT ELEVATING AS SUPERIOR OR DEMOTING AS INFERIOR…BUT EQUAL AND WHOLE. .ITS ABOUT BALANCE AND INTEGRITY.



What have women gained in the move to empower women…

In 1920 American women won the right to vote.

By the 1930s, only 13 women won seats in congress.

In the U.S., during the 1960s social upheaval women took to the streets and burned their bras in response to the phenomenon known as the women’s movement, which intended a shift in consciousness of men and women concerning gender equality for women. Women during the 60s also gained access to birth control pills.

In the 70s Women gained reproductive rights through the legalization of abortion.

In the 80 Women took control of their economic fates and now make up more than half of the workforce (51%) but earn only 80% of their male cohorts; and, only  2% of corporate bosses for Fortune 500 companies are women. Yet, Childless women in corporate America earn almost as much as men. Mothers with partners earn less and single mothers much less. [A] survey in America indicates 74% of parents said that they did not have enough time for their children.    http://www.economist.com/node/15174418

As a result of the shifts and changes during the 60s, 70s, and 80s American women lived very different lives in the 90s from women of the 50s. In 1990, Congress passed a law to provide federal funds for child care.., and created the Family and Medical Leave Act. In the 90s two-parents working became the norm to meet growing expenses for housing and rising education costs, and live comfortable lives. Bill Clinton during the 90s recognized and committed to recognizing the contributions made by women in all walks of life, and committed his administration to advancing the status of women.  http://shenyang.usembassy-china.org.cn/uploads/images/KYFFp59L1dwF5zj84P2KNg/women-role.pdf

But Ways TODAY we are still repressing women (in 26 ways according to this report) Only in a culture that passively accepts sexism would people think that these were appropriate things to say or do. If we remain silent, we are nothing but accomplices to an age-old crime. But I’m just a woman…what do I know?

1. We associate rape with accidents (Barbara Listing, an anti-abortion leader, argued that Michigan women should be forced to pay extra for health insurance to cover the cost of rape. According to Barbara, no one plans to get into a car accident or to be flooded, but they still pay insurance in case of these events…)

2. We allow women or girls to be forced into marriage every 2 minutes ~ A recent study by Plan UK revealed that every single day, across the world, 38,461 women and girls are being forced into marriages against their will. Many of these lives are exchanged for money or to settle an unrelated debt. This number doesn’t even include the unbelievably young girls that are forced into prostitution on a daily basis.

3. We tell girls they need to act a certain way in order to have value ~ Justin Lookadoo, a religious dating coach and public speaker, made some pretty ignorant comments…website…“Be mysterious. Dateable girls know how to shut up.” and “Need him. Dateable girls know that guys need to be needed. A Dateable girl isn’t Miss Independent.”   THIS SOUNDS LIKE THE “COOL GIRL” RAP

4. We believe they have a right to do what they want to women’s bodies ~ Just listen to the Right discuss women’s reproductive rights, etc.

5. Priorities are completely DISTORTED when it comes to Sexual Violence against women ~ A female prisoner who was repeatedly raped and assaulted by one of her guards was told that there was nothing the warden could do about it… except put her on birth control…clearly rape was preferable to an unwanted pregnancy.

6. We think its okay to discriminate based on biology ~ Fox News medical “expert” Dr. David Samadi claims that forcing men and women to pay equally for health insurance is unfair…his most convincing argument, however, is the fact that women have both breasts and ovaries, while men only have the prostate.

7. We still don’t understand teenagers cannot give consent ~ Teacher Stacey Rambold was convicted of repeatedly raping his fourteen-year-old student, who later killed herself during the course of the trial. But instead of receiving an appropriate punishment, he spent only thirty days in jail, because according to the judge, the victim was “older than her chronological age” and was “as in as much control of the situation” as her teacher.

8 We blame the victim ~ Criminal defense attorney Joseph DiBenedetto appeared across cable TV in October to remark on the terrible rape case of a Missouri teenager. While discussing the logistics of the case, DiBenedetto speculated that the fourteen-year-old victim was actually a conniving little liar: “She is leaving her home at 1 a.m. in the morning… And what happens? She gets caught by her mom, she’s embarrassed, and the easy way out here is, ‘Mom, someone took advantage of me.'” He continued, “What did she expect to happen at 1 a.m. in the morning after sneaking out?

9. We still have the audacity to use violence against women to sell products ~ A signage company in Texas decided to show how “realistic” its vehicle decals were by depicting a woman tied up in the back of a pickup truck. The ploy was obviously met with outrage from anyone who saw the decal— a reaction the owner of the company says he didn’t anticipate. Honestly, it’s hard to tell which mentality is dumber: the idea that this ad gimmick would be ok, or that other people would agree with you.

10.  We still claim that some things are very specifically meant for a “man’s world” ~ San Francisco sports radio host Damon Bruce really believes that in spite of the overwhelming number of women that participate in sports, they really have no idea what they’re talking about when it comes to discussing them. “A lot of sports has lost its way, and I’m gonna tell you, part of the reason is because we’ve got women giving us directions,” he said as he shook his finger and made us feel really, really sorry.

11. We continue not to take domestic violence serious ~ {How many times do you cases like the following? How about all the time!] Stephanie Bond is lucky to be alive. Her ex-husband, Gabriel Omo-Osagie, was arrested for domestic battery in November, 2009. She filed a restraining order against him, but the man was still allowed to see her children on weekdays for nine hours a day. Omo-Osagie was acquiring more firearms even though he’d had his license revoked after the incident, and he admitted to the police that he had violated the surprisingly generous custody agreement. Bond reported all of this to the police. Nothing was done. In February of 2010, Omo-Osagie shot his ex-wife three times before taking his own life. Miraculously, Bond survived…

12. Workplace discrimination is still rampant ~ Jessica Benefield, a former executive chef at a Nashville restaurant called Virago, is accusing CEO Chris Hyndman of subjecting his female employees to physical, verbal, and sexual harassment. Hyndman allegedly had a scale for which he would rank both staff and customers based on “hotness” and asked staff members to bring in “hot chicks for him to meet and entertain.” Despite the fact that Benefield was an award-winning chef and received great performance reviews at work, she was terminated immediately for “making false and malicious statements about superiors” after she complained about the treatment of female workers. Nothing says “malicious” like “Stop making it uncomfortable for me to come to work,” right?

13. We consider maxi pads and tampons to be more dangerous than guns ~ “Let’s take away an armed woman’s period supplies. What could possibly go wrong?” Such was the apparent thought process of a bunch of security guards at a Texas courthouse as they confiscated tampons and maxi pads, but allowed anyone with a concealed carry permit to take their guns right in with them…The reason for the sudden fear of cotton and cardboard was due to the fact that the subject to be presented that day was whether or not abortion clinics in the state would remain open.

14. We believe beautiful is not beautiful enough ~ Hunger Games star Jennifer Lawrence is the actress that was desperately needed to wake up Hollywood. She portrays strong female characters and has been known to condemn the industry’s desire for unhealthily thin women. She has stated that she would never drop to an unhealthy weight just for a role. So when Canadian fashion magazine “Flare” released their cover of a VERY photoshopped Jennifer, it was all the more ridiculous. Not only did they make the already-beautiful star even thinner, but they also moved her collar bone down. Magazines are sending a very clear message that if your boobs aren’t big enough, your eyes aren’t bright enough, and a small vehicle can’t drive between your thighs, you shouldn’t be in the picture at all.

15. Our advertisements depict objects rather than people (objectification of women)~ Despite the fact that studies have suggested that sex actually doesn’t sell, advertisers continue to undress women for the sake of getting more people to watch their stuff. The issue, however, is not the fact that a beautiful lady is strutting her stuff for some cash. But the cinematography looks like a science class dissection for teenage boys. They show you the girl’s body in sections (BUTT. BOOBS. BUTT. LEGS. BOOBS. burger. CROTCH. burger. BOOBS.), which turns her into a series of objects rather than a human being.

16. We still think an erection is more important than birth control ~ Many pre-Obamacare health insurance programs cover erectile dysfunction drugs, vasectomies, vacuum erection devices, and even penile implants. But when rumors started swirling around that women might soon get their birth control covered by insurance, a lot of people got kind of upset. Many companies, including Domino’s Farms (owned by Tom Monaghan, the guy who founded Domino’s Pizza) are claiming that their health insurance policies shouldn’t have to cover contraceptives, citing religious freedom. In a lawsuit filed by Monaghan, he claims that since the Catholic Church considers contraception a ‘grave sin,’ his company shouldn’t have to provide insurance that pays for it. He also likened the morning-after pill to abortion, even though the pill’s job is to stop fetuses (and therefore abortions) from ever happening in the first place. Believe it or not, both men and women have sex. We’re just trying to prevent pregnancy that can be caused by all those government-funded boners.

17 We allow rapist to sue for custody ~In Massachusetts in 2009, a fourteen-year-old girl was raped by 20-year-old Jamie Melendez, who was sentenced to sixteen years of probation, which involved him going to family court once a week. Melendez then argued that he should have visitation rights to the child that he fathered through the rape since he was paying child support. It seems a little ridiculous until you realize that thirty-one states allow rapists to sue for custody, at which point it becomes completely ridiculous. The victim is desperate (and suing the state) to end the relationship between her and Melendez, but if she fails to show up at any of her scheduled court dates over the next sixteen years, she risks losing custody of her daughter.

17. We continue to be a willing audience for misogynist  ~ Rush Limbaugh ‘Look, if you want to be a receptacle for male semen and not pay a price, I’m your guy.'” Given Limbaugh’s record for assholery, the most shocking thing about his comment is that he needed to specify that the semen was male, as though he thinks that females also carry sperm.   For more by this author: http://news.distractify.com/avericlements/signs-the-battle-for-womens-rights-is-not-nearly-over-2/



I read these stories told by women who hide their faces to testify to what they endure across the planet: assault, rape mutilation, torture, murder, and worse atrocities and violence against women. http://www.cnn.com/2014/10/30/world/meast/isis-female-slaves/index.html?hpt=hp_t1

These assaults include messaging demeaning the very spirit of the female principle. The violence women and children are suffering at the hands of ISIS terrorist should be a battle cry for all armies of the world to rise up and exterminate terrorism and violence against against all peoples no matter their gender or the color of their skin or the their religion. If you’re not a part of the solution then you’re the problem. There is definitely evidence that ISIS terrorism is not defined by boundaries. A woman schooled in self-defense is better prepared to defend herself and her family. Be prepared. What I also find unacceptable is using the name of the Egyptian female goddess of rebirth and Mother of Life, ISIS’  [see: http://www.goddessgift.com/goddess-myths/egyptian_goddess_isis.htm], name to symbolize an aberrition of patriarchy.  People hear the name ISIS and associate it with the atrocities of violence.

We live in the twenty-first century yet cannot figure out how to live in peace and compassion with one another??? Or perhaps, there is something else at work. Perhaps, these atrocities and violence against women and children as war casualties is merely a reflection of free enterprise and globalist who pull the strings in the background financing wars and making mega billions selling arms to all the waring factions. They aren’t concerned with who wins or looses or who lives or dies. Its disgusting business, war.

Wake up…be hyper aware and care about yourself enough to arm yourself with self-defense.



imprisoned on death row for five years prior to her hanging for killing her rapist…as long as one girl/woman among us must suffer these atrocities none of among us are free. http://www.cnn.com/2014/10/25/world/meast/iranian-woman-execution/index.html?hpt=hp_t2

TAKE SELF DEFENSE classes 🙂 the chances of a predator succeeding diminish significantly when the victim fights back. escaping with your life is cautious courage.



et cetera