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The unspoken rule of femininity:  you’re always supposed to be sexy, but you’re not supposed to be slutty. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/02/05/i-am-not-a-slut-leora-tanenbaum_n_6623114.html?utm_hp_ref=women&ir=Women

Do you believe female sexuality is policed? Are there two standards when it comes to sexuality?

Words connote cultural double standard: …”slut” means a woman who is disgusting, shameful and out of control sexually….[yet] [m]en are expected, even encouraged, to be sexually active — even in an uncontrolled manner — while women are expected to be minimally sexual.

Did you know…The very first usage of the term “Slut” is from 1386 from Chaucer’s “Canterbury Tales.” It appears as a noun, “sluttish,” and refers to a man who is dressed in dirty and untidy clothes. Over time, “sluttish” became a noun, “slut,” and eventually it was used exclusively to refer to women — always a slovenly white woman from the poor or working class. From the very beginning, you can see the intersection of race, class and gender in the usage of the word “slut.” http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/02/05/i-am-not-a-slut-leora-tanenbaum_n_6623114.html?utm_hp_ref=women&ir=Women

“Well, that girl deserves to be called a slut, because she chose to do something wrong.” It’s that mentality that always dovetails with the mainstream response to sexual assault. When woman comes forward and says, “I was sexually assaulted,” the default mainstream response is to accuse her of exerting agency [dressed slutty, intoxication, etc.] to provoke the assault….THE PRESSURE on women….It’s god damn exhausting!

You don’t wanna be a prude and you don’t wanna be a slut. It’s really impossible….evaluated and judged through a sexual prism no matter what… Either women are not sexual enough or women are too sexual.

There’s really no way to win. .. because so many adults are judgmental about the way young women present themselves in public. They just don’t understand how these young women have to walk on this razor-thin tightrope to not be a prude, not be a slut, be sexy but just the right amount, not show that they’re exerting any effort — you just woke up looking sexy in this very understated way.  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2015/02/05/i-am-not-a-slut-leora-tanenbaum_n_6623114.html?utm_hp_ref=women&ir=Women

Avoid the pitfalls of labels, criticism, comparisons, and judgments by becoming independent of the need to compare yourself and fit in. Release the need to be more anything in the eyes of others. Eliminate competition in your life and retreat into quiet strength. Seek awareness.

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