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{June 20, 2014}   De-mystifying date rape drugs

Be Street Savvy, Be Aware of your surroundings and get the facts on date rape drug awareness

Date Rape Drug Awareness:   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pKIAgazyUUE    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hvOpN-QQs_U     https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fk_ysDcaacQ

Profiling Predators (University of Michigan Study): http://sapac.umich.edu/article/196     http://tacticalsurvivaltraining.com/sexual-predator-rehabilitation-catch-a-predator/

Date Rape Drug Victim: http://teens.webmd.com/girls/features/date-rape-drugs-it-happened-to-me

Predators are relying on everything you don’t know or see: http://www.cybersafewomen.org/date_rape_drugs_drug-facilitated_sexual_assault”

Colleges and date rape drug victims’ stories: http://www.lifetimeadoption.com/daterapedrug.html

Date rape drugs on the rise: http://www.bgnews.com/date-rape-drugs-on-rise/article_20fdda69-9fe3-500f-883a-cfe78a05707a.html?TNNoMobile

Protecting ourselves from predators:  http://www.relating360.com/index.php/how-teenagers-can-protect-themselves-from-date-rape-drugs-43105/

Date Rape Drug Awareness:  http://c-coda.org/other_drugs/date_rape_drugs

Ambien as Predator choice date rape drug, LA:  http://www.usatoday.com/story/sports/nfl/2014/03/26/darren-sharper-ambien-zolpidem-insomnia-date-rape-case/6930621/  http://www.nydailynews.com/sports/football/drug-sharper-common-rapists-article-1.1616611

Predator Psychology: http://www.ottawacitizen.com/news/psychology+predators/9750591/story.html     http://tacticalsurvivaltraining.com/sexual-predator-rehabilitation-catch-a-predator/

De-mystifying date rape drugs:  http://ameharome.wordpress.com/2013/01/19/date-rape-drugs-explained-and-de-mystified/

The Truth About Date Rape Drugs:  http://www.thesoko.com/thesoko/article1257.html

If it is against your will, it is against the law:   http://www.miamidade.gov/police/victims-date-rape.asp

A CULTURE OF RAPE:  The Military & Date Rape Drugs (The military she’d trusted to care for her wasn’t interested in caring for her at all…):  http://www.rollingstone.com/politics/news/the-rape-of-petty-officer-blumer-20130214

Predator Protection – Why Be A Victim? – Seek Martial Arts or Self-Defense Training In Your Community – http://www.womensmartialartsalliance.com/Sexual_Assault.php

What if you think your a victim of date rape drugs?: http://www.justthinktwice.com/consequences/your_drink_is_drugged.html

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As promised, I hope to publish my manuscript, SHADOW DANCE, a manuscript that I (Cat Lynn Boyle) have written in memory of my beloved daughter Skylar Lynn Ringland, for whom this Blog honors.

Shadow Dance is fiction but it is based on the events that occurred to my daughter in 1999, only certain facts and names have been changed. Shadow Dance is about stories within stories as read from a journal or told from different perspectives. The story is about change and begins by introducing a beautiful, bright young girl who is murdered after ingesting a drink spiked with a fatal dose of GHB. Part II tells the story of loss and confusion that transforms a family as they struggle to make sense of the tragedy and strive for illusive justice. Part III, unlike real life, brings the GHB predators to trial and, although through other means, ultimately, justice is achieved. Shadow Dance is a story of change and transformation; of life and death; of love and hate; of despair and grace; of bravery and cowardice; of darkness and light; of wholeness and brokenness; of truth and deception; of destruction and resurrection; of murder and revenge. I hope you enjoy reading it and I look forward to your comments. Thank you for following the Skylar Lynn Ringland Date Rape Awareness Blog written for you. The very best is intended for you in the new year. May we all experience love, grace, peace and prosperity. Happy New Year!



We are born to die that is our naked fate. Hence, our lives are fragile. Seeing the truth of this shared humanity sharpens the perspective that every minute lived, is but a gift.
If you are a predator (http://www.cbsnews.com/8301-500202_162-57319557/date-rape-drug-death-family-still-seeks-clues/), intentionally administering GHB to the drinks of others
(http://www.thedailybeast.com/newsweek/2003/02/02/the-perfect-crime.html),
then you deliberately seek to accelerate the death of others for the potential for a GHB overdose is extremely high. If you are self-administering then you play Russian roulette with your life because the range of a safe dose is extremely narrow. http://www1.villanova.edu/villanova/studentlife/health/promotion/goto/resources/drugs/ghb.html
http://www.rainn.org/get-information/types-of-sexual-assault/drug-facilitated-assault

If you think it’s trendy to take GHB then picture yourself: unconscious, breathing very slowed and so is your heart rate, you’re experiencing aspiration due to vomit, and you have convulsions and, then can enter a coma. Your friends decide to turn you on your side to sleep it off because they are afraid they might be busted or blamed. So no one does anything to preserve your precious life.
http://www.wivb.com/dpp/news/crime/victim-allegedly-given-ghb-at-gym

You give your power away and put yourself at the mercy of stoned friends and bystanders when what is needed when over dosing on GHB is a miracle. What if those friends are self-administering GHB and incoherent? What is so cool about this experience? Please blog us.

But, if you’re a thrill seeker who likes to live on the edge, isn’t the fact that you are born to die enough of a thrill? Why not ride it out until you die of natural causes? Why put yourself at risk by compromising circumstances where another individual, maybe someone you know or maybe a complete stranger, or a predator, decides your fate, and accelerates your death?

In every second you have a choice. Choose yourself rather than GHB.

I go over it, and over it, in my mind because a predator spiked my daughter’s drink with a massive dose of GHB and she went into a GHB-induced coma and died from acute GHB poisoning. Her supposed male friend, Abstract Rude, his manager and his band, were too high and too afraid (cowards) to call 911 for help…they let her sleep it off but she never woke up. She died.

It happens so quickly that you don’t have a chance especially, if you are relying on those friends that may leave you, or lay you down to sleep it off all the while you are choking on your own vomit. Depending on people you may think are your friends may seal your fate. It’s deadly, but it’s GHB.

So you trust your friends…but what do you really know about your trusted friends? What are your criteria for discerning whether someone is trustworthy and has the potential for being a friend? What are your criteria for discerning truth from hype? Do you do things because you want to please others? Are you able to say no to what is not good for you? Can you discern those who are on your side and those who are exploitative and manipulative? Do you find yourself in situations where you know you are in over your head because you were not discerning? Can you allow yourself to look at the situation and the people in your life and draw the line to protect your health and spirit from being abused and hurt by those who do not cherish you? Can you discern what is really valuable and beautiful about yourself and honor that within you?

This is what I’m talking about, HONORING yourself, being aware of your person, your surroundings and your friends Take nothing for granted. Try waking up everyday and finding one thing to be grateful for, like breath. Miracles abound. Wake up! Remember that you have been given the gift of life. If you are reading this at this moment rejoice in the present moment of your cosmic connection to the universe…for you are a field of unlimited possibility just because you exist! That’s it! If you see that you are lacking then you are suffering from illusion because you came into this world already complete having and knowing everything you need to know for your journey.

You bring into this world your own unique gifts that only you can give to the world. It is your choice. You have value because you exist. Rejoice and celebrate your life. Dance because you are inspired by spirit not because you want to escape the ordinariness of every day life by a GHB-induced high (http://dancesafe.org/drug-information/ghb). Life is ordinary but you are not.



Searching the Internet it becomes sadly obvious that GHB is not recognized for its poisonous or lethal qualities but rather is know as a party drug. From young teens to business executives GHB does not discriminate. It kills. One of the largest GHB bust in Canadian history occurred Friday in Alberta Canada (http://www.calgaryherald.com/news/alberta/cocaine+seized+Edmonton+drug+arrest/8653098/story.html.)
The police seized 106 liters of the odorless and tasteless clear liquid. I think what makes the angriest about this GHB is that it’s prodominately used by predators to lower inhibitions of women, basically the drug is used to victimize women.
Please Watch this video: http://us.yhs4.search.yahoo.com/yhs/search?hspart=w3i&hsimp=yhs-defalttabtransfer&type=tb_ie_tbs-W3i_YT,191,8_4,Search,20120938,18369,0,8,0&p=ghb…date%20rape%20drugs…

Apparently it doesn’t matter to men whether their sexual partner is willing or conscious. Girls and Women don’t you get that this drug is designed to compromise you and your life or cause death. You can’t look cool on GHB. It is floor stripper. IS that intriguing? I don’t get it. But I want to understand…Why any girl or woman would voluntarily or knowingly put that toxic substance into their body? Please explain that to me. My daughter didn’t know she was drinking from a drink mixed with GHB. She was dead within a few hours of that drink. It can happen to you. No one seems to care when they are high on GHB that their friend has passed out. In many circumstances the party continues while the person who everyone thinks is sl;eeping it offf is actually dying because from respiratory distress.

http://us.yhs4.search.yahoo.com/yhs/search?hspart=w3i&hsimp=yhs-defalttabtransfer&type=tb_ie_tbs-W3i_YT,191,8_4,Search,20120938,18369,0,8,0&p=ghb…date%20rape%20drugs…

Read about this young woman…http://www.metacafe.com/watch/cb-akc8cO3gaSSh/whos_behind_julia_sumnichts_date_rape_drug_death/

My heart aches for all the parents who like me have suffered because GHB caused their child’s death. You are so loved and are infinite fields of possibility don’t throw it away. Don’t knowingly ingest GHB because your friends or someone who matters to you is pressuring you to try GHB.

Your life is far too valuable. You have too much to offer the world to throw it away. The one second it takes for you to ingest a GHB cocktail can be the second you demolish all your dreams for the future. Think about who you are and your connection to the great mystery of life to which you are a part…a link. Your life is worthy of preserving and protecting. Your life is worthy of celebrating. Celebrate your choice to choose life and look out for your sisters. Let your voice be heard, sing your song of life. Pass it on…and on…” Words have the power to both destroy and to heal. When words are both true and kind they can change the world.” Buddha. Your words are powerful. Stand up for what you believe…make a difference…talk to your friends about the reality of GHB as a deadly poison…blog here about your experiences…your words have the power to heal.



Every 5 minutes a rape occurs in the U.S. Around the world 35 percent of woman have been either raped or assaulted. These staggering statistics are a window into escalating violence against women–hate crimes—crimes with the sole objective of demeaning women. Crimes that destroy dignity and respect. Rape and violence permeates American culture and is glorified by Rap/Hip-Hop artists like Rick Ross and Little Wayne, as well as others, which is a paradox given that 72 percent of black men were raised in single-mother households. Where is their love and reverance for their mothers? This is a disconnect. The music industry needs accountability.

These artists are storytellers and the stories they tell are predominately about guns, violence, drugs, rape, “hoes and bitches.” But, not only do they demean women and romanticize rape but also promote date rape drugs and dangerous lifestyles. Romanticizing date rape is misogyny. In western culture where success is measured by your bank account and your possessions CNN reports five of the wealthiest rappers earning between $550 million (Sean “Diddy” Combs) and $110 million (50 cents.)

Make no mistake, our children and our grandchildren are bombarded and influenced by the messaging “Put molly all in her champagne/ She ain’t even know it/ I took her home and I enjoyed that/ She ain’t even know it.” That’s the lyrics from a piece (“U.O.E.N.O”) by Miami rapper Rick Ross. . For those who may not be street savvy, “Molly” is the drug Methylenedioxymethamphetamine or MDMA, which is a main ingredient of Estacy found in clubs all over the world.

You can sign this petition (http://www.change.org/petitions/rape-rick-ross-and-responsibility-rrr) to petition the music industry for accountability and responsibility for the content it publishes, promotes and profits from. This is a beginning or maybe a ripple across a vast sea of escalating (not diminishing)crimes against women and a culture of misogynists.

Find you voice, sign a petition, blog here or create your own…where have you experienced a lack of dignity or respect? Tell me how I can support you in your efforts to raise conscoiusness to a level where crimes against women are only memorialized in an historical sense rather than a song. We need to join together and say, “enough”–no more crimes against women.

http://messymandella.com/2013/03/29/rosa-clemente-blasts-rick-ross-rape/

http://voices.yahoo.com/rap-music-deviance-american-culture-11769.html?cat=33

http://www.therichest.org/celebnetworth/celeb/rappers/forbes-wealthiest-rappers/

http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/therootdc/post/rick-rosss-uoeno-glorifying-rape-and-drug-culture/2013/03/28/2ce16392-97d0-11e2-97cd-3d8c1afe4f0f_blog.html

http://www.allvoices.com/contributed-news/14304683-when-rappers-sing-about-date-rape-emmitt-till-like-its-a-game-its-time-to-flush-the-garbage

http://www.womensweb.ca/violence/rape/drug.php

http://singlemotherguide.com/single-mother-statistics/

http://www.cnn.com/2013/02/15/opinion/ghitis-pistorious-women-violence

http://atlantablackstar.com/2012/12/23/72-percent-of-african-american-children-are-raised-in-single-parent-homes/



GHB is reaching epidemic level on the recreational scene. Check out this link: http://chicago.cbslocal.com/2013/02/27/2-investigators-date-rape-drug-becoming-favorite-for-recreational-use/
It seems surreal that this drug made from wood floor stripper could be the drug of choice from college students to business people. It doesn’t seem like people are afraid to die as much as they are afraid to live. Like why do you think people are numbing themselves to life? It is a sad commentary on a culture that a barrel drum of liquid GHB sells for a million dollars. Think about $1 million to feed starving children throughout the country. And, a million dollars is nothing in the drug economies. Where is the nation’s social conscious that we see the disproportionate amount of money spent on recreational drug use when there are children starving and dying of diseases all over the planet as well as other atrocities because there is some apparent lack of funding.

The attached link is to an article and film clip on which they show a warehouse with 25 or more drums filled with liquid GHB. It’s going to market…the underground street markets…that get to our children. I have been contemplating what the fate of Americans would be if we simply voted to legalize drugs. Policing and sending people to jail for illegal drug use does not seem to reduce the market for drugs. There is without a doubt a high demand for debilitating drugs that can induce death and are addicting like GHB. How do we keep people from manufacturing GHB when all they need is wood floor stripper from any hardware store. It is so sad and such as waste of human potential. And, then there are all the bystanders who unknowingly become victims of GHB poisoning like my daughter in whose memory I write on this subject, as well as the thousands of other sons and daughters, brothers and sisters, and mothers and fathers, who have also died from GHB poisoning.

It seems the war on drugs is another urban myth as it hasn’t reduced the supply or the demand for drugs. For every arrest there are many more recruits (new users and sellers.) It’s as though recreational drug use is becoming a rite of passage for American teenagers. The prisons are full of petty drug users and it costs as much to house one prisoner as it cost to send a child to Princeton for a year. Locking people away for drug use isn’t the solution it is a temporary redirecting. The government spends its money on policing and prisons when what is needs is rehabilitating and reeducating. We are the change we are waiting for. It begins with you. The focus needs to shift from punishment to education and prevention. We teach our children how to read and write but what do we teach our children about surviving the ordinariness of life…the day-to-day…or surviving negative thought patterns… Why not emphasize and teach children yoga and mediation so that in the beginning they develop the strong sense of self…confidence about who they are…their intrinsic value. MAybe then people won’t go looking for who they are like it is something out there they have to obtain…the power…the raise…the next degree…

Everything needed in this life is contained within our own hearts. My heart empathizes with all drug users especially those who fear life and, consequently, look for something to numb like a hit of GHB to enhance them or to get through their day or their night, or maybe they just think of it as taking the edge off social situations but for whatever reason, the thought (the reasoning) is wack. And, that’s just it, taking a poisonous substance is just a thought until you act on it. You can always say “yeah, I could do a hit of GHB, but I choose not to…” That is always a choice every single moment that is available as a choice. People have choices but unless they learn their anchor points as children they become adults who are all over the board and make random, self-destructive choice without considering the other options available. I send love to all. This forum is your platform, find your voice…if you can make a difference in just one person’s life think what a miracle that is…



Date rape drugs predators’ drug of choice as they render the victim incapcitated. It is best to be aware that even the most seemingly innocent situations may result in compromising your safety. I think the best rule is to never go out alone but if you are out with a friend, never accept a drink unless you saw it being poured, and you never left the drink unattended. Be aware of your situation, and the people you call your friends. How well do you know them? In Denver, recently, date rape drugs were unknowingly adminsitered to women at clubs near the University of Denver. http://kdvr.com/2013/05/17/police-issue-warning-after-women-given-date-rape-drugs-near-du/

If you feel vulnerable about your situation, or you have been victimized by date-rape drugs, or you know someone who had a close call with date rape drugs, please share your story.

It is our shared experience that brings awareness and light to the subject. As women, and sisters, and we need to make every effort to strengthen our bonds so that we are always vigilent not only about our own safety but for the safety of other women, and children. It is our shared experiences that unites us and helps us to grow and expand into warriors.



{January 5, 2011}   Awareness Alert

This is one of the most informative compilations of GHB films. All together the 15 individual films take about 20 minutes: http://wn.com/GHB



I just read an inspiring awareness piece by Amanda Hess on putting to rest the date-rape urban myth and incorporate it here for you: http://www.washingtoncitypaper.com/blogs/sexist/2009/10/28/the-date-rape-drug-is-in-an-urban-myth-lets-put-it-to-rest/ Ms. Hess nails the fact that sex without consent is rape. Rape, is not the exclusive domain of what we think of as villians. It can be your husband, your cousin, your trusted friend, the guys at the office, your boyfriend, or other seemingly normal guys, says Ms. Hess. Likewise, rape victims are not just young school girls but also women from all age groups and all walks of life, including those who drink alcohol. Just because a woman goes to a bar and drinks doesn’t imply consent. Rape is still rape. My daughter was not raped, someone slipped the date-rape drug, Ghb,into something she was drinking and she went into a coma. No one called 911; she died within a few hours of toxic poisoning. It is the predatory behavior that alarms me, and should be setting off alarms in our society. Woman are victimized and are disappearing every day, and are never again seen by family and friends. I have often wondered if date-rape drugs are used to render girls/women unconscious, and then they are transported away in their unconscious state to some hiding place. I found this article about a cruise ship incident of Ghb spiking and a young girl’s subsequent death: http://www.cruiselawnews.com/tags/date-rape-drug/.



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